splitsville....

[applejuice]

Heather Locklear & Rickie Sambora http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20060203...e_060203171414

Sheryl Crowe & Lance Armstrong http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060204/..._crow_split_18

JMHO, but I have had little respect for Lance Armstrong since he dumped his first wife after she had stood by him through the treatments and his ultimate recovery from testicular cancer that had supposedly traveled to his brain. He left her about the same time my DH died from a similar cancer that went to his brain, and I felt terrible for her.

To be honest, I would have also been glad that my DH was alive and recovered, even if he left me, but that was not true in my case.

[OakBerry]

Applejuice, I'm so sorry that you lost your dh to cancer.
I have lymphoma and everyone expects me to love Lance Armstrong and look up to him for being such a fighter. I do think his achievments are admirable, not many people could do what he did. But I lost a lot of respect for him when he got famous and dumped his wife for a Hollwood version. :

[applejuice]

I hope you conquer your lymphoma...my DH was diagnosed ten years ago next month...he lived knowing he had cancer for seven, almost eight years, but I thought something was wrong with him long before that.

I hope you also have someone to standby you throught the fight, because I am sure that is what kept my DH alive so long. He loved me and wanted to watch our children grow and enjoy a life with me, post-children in our golden years...

My golden years will be tarnished a bit.

[*Devon*]

I have no personal relationship to the cancer thing but I am totally on your side with the whole Lance Armstrong thing... I never had a yellow bracelet I read an article about them when they were together (he and his wife) and she was saying how "it can't always be 50/50, sometimes you have to make sacrifices for the other person and let it be 95/5". What a jerk he is.

And on top of leaving her, he had to be seen on camera making out with SC whenever possible. That's just sh**ty. I'm glad I'm not the only one who lost respect for him.

[Beeblebrox]

My DH has said the same things regarding Lance Armstrong, but I just find it hard for me to make that sort of judgement call. I have no idea what went on in their marriage. Now, if it is widely known that he was a jerk, okay, but things are often misconstrued in the media. I'm not saying he's an angel or he's the scum of the earth, I'm just not sure if I'm ready to call him a total asshat yet.

[Elastagirl]

I'm no Lance Armstrong groupie, but I'm pretty sure he had gone through cancer and treatment BEFORE he met his now ex-wife. I'll look for an actual source on that...and then try to post a link, if I can figure that out!

I can imagine what a strain the endless training and travel would put on a marriage, however, whether he's a jerk or not. He's definitely a hyper-type-A personality. One would have to be to accomplish what he has.

ETA...
OK, I just Googled "Lance Armstrong" and found a ton of sites (of course) but they all said that he was diagnosed with cancer in 1996 and didn't meet his wife until 1997 (they were married in '98) so she probably played a part in his continued treatment and recovery. Their marriage was relatively short though...something like 4 years.

[OakBerry]

Originally Posted by applejuice

My golden years will be tarnished a bit.

Thank you for your kind words. I do have a wonderful dh who is standing by me, and without him I don't know what I'd do. Your dh was lucky to have someone like you to help him through his journey.
It's hard to swallow that your life will be forever changed as you know it, all your plans, dreams. Even though I'm still here and fighting I mourn for our old life without cancer. AT least I don't worry about the small stuff as much anymore...

[applejuice]

Originally Posted by OakBerry

AT least I don't worry about the small stuff as much anymore...

Yes, straightens out the life perspective.

[Elastagirl]

I just re-visited this thread and realized how insensitive my post might seem...I posted after just skimming the other responses and didn't read very carefully.

applejuice and oakberry, you are two brave women!
I apologize if I sounded dismissive or rude in any way.

Phooey to Lance Armstrong, anyway!