Originally Posted by BCmamaof5
skye's mama: did you look a lot bigger initially?
I felt like I was getting big early on, and my husband and I began to refer to my belly as "they" and "the twins". I was doing it at least half-jokingly because even though I felt big, I just never ever thought about having twins or even wanted twins in the least. Honestly, I thought they seemed kind of freakish. Not in a bad way, just in that I couldn't comprehend life as a twin.
I saw my midwife for the first time at 18 weeks. She didn't think I was measuring big. She did listen for two heartbeats but didn't find anything convincing. She herself has twins, and has been a midwife for over 20 years. After that we gave up the "twins/they" belly reference.
We took a birthing class near the beginning of the last trimester. The instructor had twins. We told everyone in the class about our early "twin" phase. There was another couple who actually knew they having twins. No one thought we had twins.
We visited our backup OB for the first time at 34 weeks. The day before our midwife recommended we ask him to do an u/s as a sanity-check since the baby just was not in a position she would expect for that stage in the pregnancy. (He and our midwife knew each other well, and he was fine being our backup in the case of a hospital transfer.) He didn't think we were having twins and was very surprised to find two in there. Oh, and he specializes in fertility treatment and has a significant number of clients with multiples as a result of that!
So, I thought I was big, but few other people did. I got maybe three comments in all about being a little big. And then after the fact a few people said they thought I was kind of big, but retrospect is 20/20, right?
However, it was my first pregnancy, I am kind of tall, had pretty good muscle tone from lots of biking and swimming (those were the days :-), and probably did not eat enough since my 38 week babies were only 5lb.15oz. and 6lb.5oz.
In retrospect, other than size, the big early clue for me maybe should have been that the first trimester knocked me off my feet. I was awake maybe 6-8 hours a day, probably less than that some days. And I couldn't understand how pregnant women accomplished anything other than eating and sleeping.
Well, I am sure the suspense must be huge. I only had to wait one day to find out. Are you really going to believe the u/s results? If they only find one, are you going to still wonder if there is another hiding out somewhere (as huggerwocky mentioned)?
I know there are lots of reasons to try to find out early if you have strong suspicions. But I also can recommend a wait and see approach if you are healthy and listen to what your body needs. I had a wonderful 34 weeks of no stress. Once I got that ultrasound things changed quickly.