**Pregnant With Multiples Thread** - Page 2

[cjcolorado]

Such a good idea to start this thread...I'd been searching Mothering for something like it!
I'm currently 16 1/2 weeks with twins, which we found out about around 14 weeks. We don't plan to find out the sex beforehand--at my earliest appt, they gave a reasonable guess that the kiddos are identical.
My pg symptoms were pretty much the same as with my DD--nearly nonexistent! I was just a touch more tired on a couple of days and had a couple of days of feeling a little queasy. Only in the past week or so have I gotten markedly bigger than I did when pg with DD (I look now like I did at 20 weeks with her).
As far as birth plans go, I have the same ideals, but I've accomodated for a lot more "what ifs." I have decided to go outside our military medical system (thank goodness), since none of the midwives are authorized to see me now (and the hospital's pediatric unit is a joke). I'm fortunate to be able to choose my OB and have chosen one on the strong recommendation of a number of friends--he is very accomodating, informative and natural-birth-friendly. He's also one of the few docs in our town who attends all of his patients' deliveries. He also delivers at our town's only hospital with a Level III NICU. So, I'm anxious to see what the future holds!

[midwestmom]

I was careful when reading Noble (not done with this one) and Lukes books not to freak myself out and just used the info that was the most helpful to me....mostly the nutrition stuff. I soaked in the positive and looked at the warnings/complications as something to work hard to avoid. I am just starting Mothering Multiples .

I was VERY sick from week 6-11. VERY sick. I didn't have m/s with my first 2 pregnancies. I was growing faster but not gaining any more weight than my singles. I have REALLY blossomed in the last 2 weeks per everyone at work.

Caitlin320-I will be anxious to hear what you find out!

Thanks to Karen for checking in with us newbies. Please do so frequently .

[mimid]

Yeah, it is so much fun when you show up to lunch with friends and they say, "Wow, Miriam, you are HUGE!" or "You get bigger every time I see you."

[midwestmom]

At least when total strangers comment that it looks like twins in there b/c of my huge belly, I can say- THERE ARE!

[mimid]

I love to just say "no" when strangers ask me about twins. Depending on how I feel and how they ask/react I tell them or I just leave it. Like the woman who told me that I would soon just want it to end. :

[midwestmom]

and if one more person asks me with bewilderment in their voice if I am going to BF twins.......I may freak out on them. I have been asked this alot in the last 2 days.

[MiaMya]

Hello!

Hi everyone,

I am 30 weeks pregnant with twins. I found out at my 20 week ultrasound and I'm still shocked. They are # 4 and 5. I wanted just one more baby. HA! (DH didn't want any, ooooopss!! ). For the first few weeks after finding out, I was so anxious about the birth. My midwife is unable to be my primary provider. She did however suggest an OB in the office and offered to attend the birth. But the doc and I have already bumped heads. I do not feel too comfortable with the doc right now, but I have put to rest some of my anxiety, because I have trust in my body. The main problem I have is that if BOTH babies are not vertex at the onset of labor they will perform a C-sect. HOW RIDICULOUS! Major abdominal surgery for postion reasons only. I have tried looking for other providers, but pretty much get the same story. I have had 3 non-medicated vaginal births, can a breech delivery be THAT bad????

Well, good luck to everyone!!

Mia

[bzmomof8]

I'm lurking here, but thought I could answer a couple questions.

Jenn-

I have b/g twins, they are 14 months today. I delivered naturally. Although had to have an epi since the risk was so high. This was in case one needed turned (which my son did after his sis was born) and in case of an emergency c-section. Things went pretty well. I delivered at 37 weeks after 6 wks bedrest. The babies were 6 lbs 3 oz and 6 lbs 11 oz. About 20 minutes apart. My son was exhausting to deliver since he was last, after all it is giving birth twice in one day!

Mia-

I learned to never say never! First we didn't want any more, so we sold everything. Then decided to try for "just one more"! HA!

Good luck to all of you and if I can be of help to anyone just let me know.

[midwestmom]

Mia-I just recently found out about my twins too and the sono tech (I haven't had a chance to ask my midwife yet) says that in their office, they will deliver baby B breech if baby A is vertex. I have also read this alot in the research I have recently done. I would specifically ask about this possibility. Congrats on your twins!

[eek909]

Oh my gosh, I am so glad I found this thread! I have been visiting another twin message board, but not really clicking with the girls there. They all seem to think their doctors are God and are totally ok with all the interventions they are being offered. Not me!

I am 30 weeks pregnant with twin boys. I have a 23 month old son at home. I am really excited about the twins, but not so much about the medical "care" I have been receiving. Does anyone else feel like they are being treated like a time bomb about to go off? It's like they are just waiting for complications to happen so they can treat them.

My doctor (I couldn't find a midwife willing to deliver without an OB present) did at least say he is willing to deliver twin B breech if necessary, so that's good. But he is telling me he wants me to have an epidural in case he needs to perform a breech extraction or a c-section. Is anyone else hearing this?

[midwestmom]

eek909-that is also something I have been wondering about and on my list of questions for my next appt. I know that they would let me labor and deliver without pain meds if things were going well and I didn't want them, but I don't even want an epidural in place ready to use just in case, KWIM? If anyone else has asked this question already, let us know! I will update after my appt on Feb 28th about it.

Oh, and welcome, eek909! I visit a more mainstream twins board too occasionally and it is interesting to say the least .

[rdl2k5]

Before we found out the girls were Mono twins, my OB was fine with a natural birth, no epidural in place. He said the only thing he would not attempt was if both babies were in abnormal positions. He was willing to deliver Baby B breech if need be.

His policy, and the hospital, did dictate an OR Delivery though. I imagine in the event of a *true* emergency I would've received a General for delivery, and in the event of issues with positioning would've had plenty of time for a Spinal to be administered.

I know policy varies from place to place, but the OR Delivery and a Heplock were the only two that he was going to insist upon. He was even fine with laboring in the birthing pool.

I hate the idea of another C-Section! I know that the more medical interventions you allow increase your chance too, so I really hope your doctor will be more flexible.

[Mama2RMM]

Originally Posted by rdl2k5

Before we found out the girls were Mono twins, my OB was fine with a natural birth, no epidural in place. He said the only thing he would not attempt was if both babies were in abnormal positions. He was willing to deliver Baby B breech if need be.

His policy, and the hospital, did dictate an OR Delivery though. I imagine in the event of a *true* emergency I would've received a General for delivery, and in the event of issues with positioning would've had plenty of time for a Spinal to be administered.

I know policy varies from place to place, but the OR Delivery and a Heplock were the only two that he was going to insist upon. He was even fine with laboring in the birthing pool.

I hate the idea of another C-Section! I know that the more medical interventions you allow increase your chance too, so I really hope your doctor will be more flexible.

Oops, that was me logged in as my husband.

[SlingWearin'Mama]

Mine said I could skip the epidural. I had to deliver in the OR, my doula couldn't be present. He would consider a double breech though. He would prefer me to deliver by 38 and will not let me go past 40 weeks. Is it just me or is he all over the board here? haha

Yes I also feel like a ticking time bomb!

[midwestmom]

Originally Posted by SlingWearin'Mama

Mine said I could skip the epidural. I had to deliver in the OR, my doula couldn't be present. He would consider a double breech though. He would prefer me to deliver by 38 and will not let me go past 40 weeks. Is it just me or is he all over the board here? haha

Yes I also feel like a ticking time bomb!

I have heard the OR thing (dumb), but WHY can't your doula be present???? He is alittle all over the board-lol.

[SlingWearin'Mama]

because it would make the OR too crowded with the gaggle of people they get to have in there.

[kc7fid]

Twins in Aug

i guess it would be best for me to join a chat i have been searching all over since i found out i was having twins, and well i guess a support group is a great help. i am a mother of a wonderful little boy that will be 1 in a week! and i am 16 weeks preg with twins! we are so so excited, at first it was a little...a big shock but now we coundnt be happier!

[3+2=5:-)]

Hello, everyone! I don't have much time to be online. I have a 4 yr old, 3 yr old, 19 mo old, and am 29 weeks pregnant with twin girls! :-) I am getting to that tired, can't get everything done in a day stage. I CANNOT find a doc who views birth (especially twin birth) as a natural process. The doc I have loves to do c-sections. He says unless they are both head down at onset of labor, he will do a caesarean. Can he make me do this? I have looked around, and talked to people. Everyone around here WANTS a caesarean. I just moved here 8 months ago. I am going to have a serious talk with my doc on March 2nd. He said we could talk about all this again when it got closer. He says he wants to check my cervix that day. I am going to request to see him in his office first.

Mia...how old are your children?? It's gonna be crazy to have five, huh?! I am so excited, though!

[MiaMya]

Kristi - I have an 8 y/o DD, 6 y/o DS, and 18 month old DS. I haven't found out the sexes of the twins yet, I can only handle one surprise at a time!! Everyone is betting on boy/girl. I am freaking out about having 5 kids, especially 2 at once. I wonder if you are in Michigan since we got the same reaction from the OBs?? I mean these docs are serious. I don't get it. I keep questioning, why don't they even try vaginal, that baby B can flip around on his own, or why don't they do a version to turn baby b, I mean give a LITTLE effort. I had to make up my mind that both of these babies will be vertex, I will carry them til at least 38 weeks, and everything will be perfect so I have nothing to worry about.

Melinda - I get negative reactions too when I mention BFing twins. I went to a mothers of multiples meeting and they were trying to give me good advice. Stock up on diapers and formula. I was like, well I won't be buying any formula, I got blank stares. Then one mom said oh yea I BFed for about 3 weeks, yea. So I am thinking about contacting LLL for some support there. I mean of course its possible.

I am curious to know if Caitlin320 was correct in her predictions.

Anna- good luck to you with your mono twin pregnancy. Is everything going good? You sound really positive and are going strong at 26 weeks. Is it a little scary being higher-risk? Has your doc been talking about a time to take the babies?

Mia

[3+2=5:-)]

I am in Alabama, actually. There is ONE more doc I can call around here, but he is at a really small hospital. I haven't heard anything about him. Nobody around here uses him that I know. Otherwise, I would have to drive to Birmingham (2 hours). Also, we are doing the medicaid thing and it is weird. You can only choose docs based on where you live. So, we would have to pay out of pocket if we went with a Birmingham doc. After I talk to my doc this next time, if I am still not happy, I will call this other doc, but another thing is I have already switched once, and now if I switch again, I'll have to file a grievance with medicaid...not sure what that involves. Anyway, I have done that, too...made up my mind that they will be head down! :-) I have thought about going in at the last minute. DH says he won't let them cut me! He says he'll tell the doc he can go play golf...just get him a nurse, and he'll catch the babies! I love my DH! He really is wonderful. He may go with me to this next appointment, too. ANYWAY, I gotta run. Oh, and the breastfeeding thing...I KNOW we can do it!! Do you have help? I mean, I think I can handle bfing two as long as I have some help with all the other stuff needing to be done. Is your daughter a good helper? Well, ya'll have a good day!