Originally Posted by maya44
I think its unwise to label.
MY SIL was in a playgroup made up of moms with kids around 4 years of age.
There was one mom there who, it turned out had used CIO. She "believed" in it mostly because for her it involved three nights of less than 15 minutes of crying.
In any event, there was this big "movement" to kick her out, even though she did extended bf and was proboably the best GD mom I have ever met.
Eventually they decided not to let 45 minutes of her parenting decision be a reason to kick her out.
I probably don't even want to take this thread in this direction....but I have to ask...Do you all consider less than 15 minutes of crying to be CIO??
Again, I suppose it would depend if we are talking baby/infant or not, but I do find the whole CIO almost as much of an enigma as AP.
I was drawn here because I do parent in a way that is 'attached'. I am very tuned into my daughter and try to best meet her needs while also tending to the needs of the entire family. I get so worried sometimes when I see mama's posting who feel *terrible* about their mothering because they aren't "AP" enough or they are feeling burned out with the family bed or burned out on nursing their 3 year old. I think AP is about gently meeting your baby's needs intuitively but I believe that as parents we are the responsible grown ups who need to be sure that we are nurturing ourselves as well. There is too much maryterdom for burned out mamas in the name of "AP".