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post #101 of 113
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Originally Posted by mshollyk View Post
i forgot i posted about this



here's me, just before i presented my lesson plan to my teaching class. funny thing about this, i wore the same outfit without the jacket to my observation (i have to observe teachers in class), and when h saw me, he said, "don't be surprised if they don't ask you back the way you look, trying to look like a man." i'm already insecure, that didn't help at all...then when i got there, there was a teacher with similar hair, tats, OBVIOUSLY queer, with tenure, and the students love her
i like this story....i wish you weren't insecure....you look great
post #102 of 113
oh my goodness, i'm so glad I found this forum and thread.

I am a genderqueer high school teacher, and have been considering transitioning for awhile...also been considering applying for PhD programs for awhile...and considering whether or not I want to have kids (and thusly what my transition will/will not look like, etc). Anyway, hello lovelies!

I wanted to comment on the professional drag clothing situation. It is summer now, and I hate hate hate hate hate trying to figure out andro fag business casual summer-y clothes. I hate it! I'm not very good with men's clothes in general, but in the winter-y months, I feel like i can pull it off really well. My students and colleagues all seem to think I have good style and it's seen as "funky". I never wear ties, but I wear an awful lots of scarves, cravats, vests, etc. I basically take inspiration from men of the 19th century. ha.
but, in the summer, I can't do that. As I type this, I am wearing really femme-y gear and it has me feelin' pretty uncomfortable. And at times like this, I wonder if I am ever going to be able to relax enough to be pregnant...like, if I can't handle a cashmere cardigan because it makes me look to femme, what am I going to do with a big pregnant lady belly?
post #103 of 113
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Originally Posted by ives View Post

I am a genderqueer high school teacher

I wanted to comment on the professional drag clothing situation. It is summer now, and I hate hate hate hate hate trying to figure out andro fag business casual summer-y clothes. I hate it! I'm not very good with men's clothes in general, but in the winter-y months, I feel like i can pull it off really well. My students and colleagues all seem to think I have good style and it's seen as "funky". I never wear ties, but I wear an awful lots of scarves, cravats, vests, etc. I basically take inspiration from men of the 19th century. ha.
YES!!! that sounds right up my alley!! i'm working towards teaching high school as well, any tips would be most welcome
post #104 of 113
Thought I'd introduce myself.

I'm a drag king, mama of 2 boys that are comfortable playing the spectrum, fairly femme homebirthing midwife.

I identify as female, and love doing drag as it is a way to support and encourage the genderqueer community. In addition, it allows me the freedom to fully indulge a masculine side that I love.

I don't ever see myself as trans, or desiring a permanent transition, but I love the freedom of choosing my gender when I want to.

And, although I'm not trans, our troupe does have ftm performers and it's been a privilege to support their transitions.


just a note from experience: binding and breastfeeding are not friendly.
post #105 of 113
Hi, I've just joined MDC in the last hour, solely because of this thread. Hoping someone can talk to me about experiences like mine. My partner crossdresses (though he hates that word and all the other names for it,) and he seems to think it's causing us problems. Anyone willing to talk to me about this?
post #106 of 113
mshollyk - your "back to school pic" is awesome - you are stunning. Thanks for sharing!
post #107 of 113
mtnhighmama - hi! I so admire you for being so comfortable with being both a mum and having a masculine side. I'm not a mum but I do acknowledge my own masculine side. Having a partner who is male with a strong feminine side has helped me understand more about gender 'confusion', if that's the word, or at least that gender is really not a clear cut issue. Though I knew about my partner from the very start, I'm on a real learning curve. If you have any advice or insights, I'd be very grateful.
post #108 of 113
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post #109 of 113
In case my username doesn't give it away, I'm a genderqueer mama...I'm glad there's a trans presence here.
post #110 of 113
I'm struggling at the moment, as I'm chronically ill and suffering depression, and then yesterday, my transvestite fiance, who'd closed the door on the possibility of actually becoming a woman before we met, admitted he's once again thinking about it very seriously. I've always known that there was more to it than just cross dressing, and I had begun to suspect that this was the reason for his unhappiness, tho he was reluctant to talk about it. I want more than anything else for him to be happy with who he is, and I love with him with all my heart, so I'll be supportive if he eventually opts for gender reassignment. But I'm worried about how it will affect our relationship. Will love and courage be enough? Will I still feel sexually attracted to him if he has a woman's body? I may have a few blurred edges to my own sexual identity, but I know I'm clear about my sexual orientation. If remaining a man would make him unhappy in his own skin, I may be just as uncomfortable effectively living as a lesbian with him, when I'm straight. I just don't know, and I've told him - her actually, at the time - that. We both know it could spell the end for us. I don't want to lose him/her, because he/she is a wonderful person and the best thing that's ever happened to me, but I'm scared about what the future may hold. I may have to let him/her go. I may not be strong enough to marry a woman, however much love and understanding there is. I feel horrible just saying it, but I have to real. I have a feeling that whatever happens, one of us is going to be deeply unhappy. We've only been engaged two months. I wish all this stuff had happened before we made it official - people are still congratulating us but we don't even know if we can stay together,let alone marry.
post #111 of 113
I haven't gotten around to reading this whole thread yet, but I wanted to jump in and subscribe. DP (a genetic male) and I (a genetic female) are both bisexual but in a committed monogamous relationship with each other. A few weeks ago I saw a vision of DP as a girl and with his permission, he allowed me to bring her into being. Pink lipstick, pink nailpolish, and a ringlette-making curling iron, birthed "Kitten" into existence. Since then, he has been dressing as a woman about 75% the time (even accompanying me shopping!) and has begun to fully develop a female persona. I am generally THRILLED about his transformation but I still have a lot of questions about his changes (actually we both do). I'll come back and introduce our situation further but just wanted to reactivate this thread and say hi.

Are there any other threads here about transgendered parenting?
post #112 of 113
[QUOTE=animus_silvae;10546083]I haven't gotten around to reading this whole thread yet, but I wanted to jump in and subscribe. DP (a genetic male) and I (a genetic female) are both bisexual but in a committed monogamous relationship with each other. A few weeks ago I saw a vision of DP as a girl and with his permission, he allowed me to bring her into being. Pink lipstick, pink nailpolish, and a ringlette-making curling iron, birthed "Kitten" into existence. Since then, he has been dressing as a woman about 75% the time (even accompanying me shopping!) and has begun to fully develop a female persona. I am generally THRILLED about his transformation but I still have a lot of questions about his changes (actually we both do). I'll come back and introduce our situation further but just wanted to reactivate this thread and say hi.

hi...this sounds really great for you and your dp.....its so fun to watch the one you love blossom and change into who they want to be....i wish there were more transgendered threads but i guess theres not a lot of tranny parents around here....my boifriend is a ftm and my dd is 8.....recently she told me about how she tried explaining how my boifriend used to be a girl to one of her friends at school but they couldn't understand what she was talking about so she just gave up....guess its kinda confusing for kids who are growing up in totally hetero homes....
post #113 of 113
hey there i'm a genderqueer butch with no preferred pronoun. I don't have any kids yet but was pregnant this winter till i had a 1st trimester miscarriage and then a week later got diagnosed with multiple sclerosis so now we're switching to my femme partner as the inseminee while sorting out my health situation. but during my brief pregnancy we already had funny situations like the people at the ob/gyn office assuming that she was the pregnant one, not me... and i was starting to freak a bit about body changes and clothing issues... JD
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