oh my goodness, i'm so glad I found this forum and thread.
I am a genderqueer high school teacher, and have been considering transitioning for awhile...also been considering applying for PhD programs for awhile...and considering whether or not I want to have kids (and thusly what my transition will/will not look like, etc). Anyway, hello lovelies!
I wanted to comment on the professional drag clothing situation. It is summer now, and I hate hate hate hate hate trying to figure out andro fag business casual summer-y clothes. I hate it! I'm not very good with men's clothes in general, but in the winter-y months, I feel like i can pull it off really well. My students and colleagues all seem to think I have good style and it's seen as "funky". I never wear ties, but I wear an awful lots of scarves, cravats, vests, etc. I basically take inspiration from men of the 19th century. ha.
but, in the summer, I can't do that. As I type this, I am wearing really femme-y gear and it has me feelin' pretty uncomfortable. And at times like this, I wonder if I am ever going to be able to relax enough to be pregnant...like, if I can't handle a cashmere cardigan because it makes me look to femme, what am I going to do with a big pregnant lady belly?