Originally Posted by jkpmomtoboys
Yeah but that study talks about being in preschool more than 6 hours a day. That's not preschool; that's day care.
For socialization arguments, you could talk about finding a homeschooling group that's made up of preschoolers/kindergarteners. As for being "behind" when you start K, I would pull a list of the Kindergarten "standards" and talk about ways you could teach them at home, if she doesn't already know them.
Many preschools in our area are 6 hours a day. Most of the kids in ds's preschool are there for 6 hours, but I pick ds up much earlier. (And really, even if a preschool is shorter, how is it not daycare? I personally think much of "school", even up through the elementary years, is daycare. Heck, kindergarten is full day here - sounds a lot like daycare to me.)
I don't have time to find the other links that I have seen over the years, but I can give you my personal experience. Before ds1 started preschool, he was very well "socialized." He shared, took turns, was sensitive to other's feelings, could function in a group of children or one on one, etc. He has been at a small, play based, wonderful fantastic preschool for almost 2 years now. He is more aggressive, gets angrier more quickly at other kids, is more focused on "winning" or "going first", and has been known to shove a kid out of his way. He says things like "you're stupid", "you need to get out of here," "you're not my friend anymore," etc. These are all "socialization" behaviors that he learned at preschool. And he went for an average of 3 hours a day, maybe 2-3 days a week. I can't imagine a more wonderful preschool, director, or teachers. I have truly learned so much from just watching the teachers in action. But there is nothing they can do about the peer socialization that happens within a group of 3-5 year olds, and it's not pretty. Every single time I drop ds off or pick him, and I mean EVERY SINGLE TIME, I see an incident of a child being excluded, a child being told they aren't invited to a birthday party, a child, a child feeling hurt, a child feeling anxious because they aren't quick enough to keep up with the game, etc. And even though the teachers are quick to address it and are very attentive, they can't see everything. Heck, I only have two kids and I can't see everything all day.
Again, I love ds's preschool, but in the end wish we hadn't sent him. I think he would have retained more of his wonderful natural sweetness if we hadn't. And I felt this at the time, but allowed myself to be pressured into it.