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Originally Posted by Dar
I'm not really comfortable with some of the messages here. As a naturally slender person, it's taken me a while to come to terms with my daughter's weight (and I'm not sure I'm truly there yet, but I try). She's "overweight" according to the charts, and she always had a larger build than most kids... but when she hit adolescence, she got much bigger. She has larger bones, larger boobs, and is just a larger person than I am. However, she eats healthy foods - pounds of apples and carrots a week, vegetarian for months and years at a time throughout her life, and very little processed food - and exercises - walking, dance classes, working out. She's healthy. She's happy with herself, or at least as happy as most 13 year olds (it's a tough age). We're talked about weight but I'm not at all comfortable with the focus some of the posters have on helping her "slim down". Your daughter may not be built for "slimmed down". She may be build more along Botticelli lines, and that has to be okay....
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ITA, I had weight issues when I was little, my mum saw the doctor about it just before he was weaned and he said that although according to the charts I was obese, the fact that I was fully breastfed meant that I was the right weight for me.Now, without any attempts at dieting I have changed from a fat 7year old to a pudgy 11year old to a normal, average sized 15year old with no weight issues, having not done any diets.
My mum excepts that I'm bigger than her and the rest of my family (height and shape) but the only thing she ever did to interfere with me and my body weight was to tell me I'd grow out of it and not to diet as a response to bullying. By telling me not to worry, and teaching me that it was not I big deal she minimised it and gave me time to finish puberty.
Just my experience who has just finished going through something reasonable similar.
