Update on pg. 11
I am not sure where I should post this, so MODS, feel free to move it.
Yesterday we had an encounter at the beach with some friends. I told DD I would take her for a walk and then to the swings at the park. My friend was camping with her family at the beach so I stopped by to say hi and ask if she wanted to come with us to the park. Her son (15 y/o) took DD (3.5 y/o) ahead of us. When we walked down to the park they were not there. We went to a different park, they were not there. At this point I was desperately trying to find her, but not sound like I was panicking. We went to the first playground again, they were not there, then I went to the other playground again and FINALLY found them playing on the swings. The 4th time we searched for them.
I told him we were looking all over for them and he lied to me. HUGE RED FLAG. He said they had been up there the whole time. I told him we were up there looking for them and he said he had to go to the bathroom. I thought I was going to be sick on the spot. Why in the hell did he take my DD in the bathroom with him?!?
I told DD it was time to go and said goodye to the family. I acted like we were in a hurry to go run errands that morning. After we were away from their campsite, I asked DD if she had gone to the bathroom. She said no. I asked her if he went to the bathroom and she said yes. Then she told me in detail what he did to her. She said that he did (or tried to) put his penis in her mouth, and she didn't like it.
I was practically running for the car. I was going to take DD to my friend's house and see if she heard the same thign I heard. DD does know anatomical terms for genitals, but I was in complete shock. As I was leaving the beach area, I saw a police officer and flagged him down. I told him what had just happened, and the report began. I was told not to let her eat or drink anything, as well as use the restroom. Easier said than done with a 3 y/o, but I was able to distract her for 3 more hours.
We had investigators come to our house. They did not interview DD. We took her to a forensic clinic and she was tested for DNA and had a physical exam. They said her hymen was intact and the mouth swab came up negative. Next step is a forensic interview at the same place. They are going to schedule it for this week, as soon as we can get in, but I am playing the waiting game.
The family has not been contacted yet. Another twist, my DH is deployed in Iraq and I do not want to tell him until after the interview. Not that the interview will change my mind about what happened, but I want to have more answers for him. I feel helpless and his grief will be 10x worse than mine because he can not help her or be here to comfort her.
DD seems fine and at this point so I am thankful for that. I am just at a loss, don't know what to do, don't have very many people I can talk to, and would like some support from anyone who has been through this.
I am not sure where I should post this, so MODS, feel free to move it.
Yesterday we had an encounter at the beach with some friends. I told DD I would take her for a walk and then to the swings at the park. My friend was camping with her family at the beach so I stopped by to say hi and ask if she wanted to come with us to the park. Her son (15 y/o) took DD (3.5 y/o) ahead of us. When we walked down to the park they were not there. We went to a different park, they were not there. At this point I was desperately trying to find her, but not sound like I was panicking. We went to the first playground again, they were not there, then I went to the other playground again and FINALLY found them playing on the swings. The 4th time we searched for them.
I told him we were looking all over for them and he lied to me. HUGE RED FLAG. He said they had been up there the whole time. I told him we were up there looking for them and he said he had to go to the bathroom. I thought I was going to be sick on the spot. Why in the hell did he take my DD in the bathroom with him?!?
I told DD it was time to go and said goodye to the family. I acted like we were in a hurry to go run errands that morning. After we were away from their campsite, I asked DD if she had gone to the bathroom. She said no. I asked her if he went to the bathroom and she said yes. Then she told me in detail what he did to her. She said that he did (or tried to) put his penis in her mouth, and she didn't like it.
I was practically running for the car. I was going to take DD to my friend's house and see if she heard the same thign I heard. DD does know anatomical terms for genitals, but I was in complete shock. As I was leaving the beach area, I saw a police officer and flagged him down. I told him what had just happened, and the report began. I was told not to let her eat or drink anything, as well as use the restroom. Easier said than done with a 3 y/o, but I was able to distract her for 3 more hours.
We had investigators come to our house. They did not interview DD. We took her to a forensic clinic and she was tested for DNA and had a physical exam. They said her hymen was intact and the mouth swab came up negative. Next step is a forensic interview at the same place. They are going to schedule it for this week, as soon as we can get in, but I am playing the waiting game.
The family has not been contacted yet. Another twist, my DH is deployed in Iraq and I do not want to tell him until after the interview. Not that the interview will change my mind about what happened, but I want to have more answers for him. I feel helpless and his grief will be 10x worse than mine because he can not help her or be here to comfort her.
DD seems fine and at this point so I am thankful for that. I am just at a loss, don't know what to do, don't have very many people I can talk to, and would like some support from anyone who has been through this.
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So sorry that happened.
: for your daughter and your family.
Hugs and love to you and your dd. You did the right thing and acted fast. How absolutly heartbreaking this must be for you. You and your family are in my prayers. I hope that boy get's help before he does that to some other child.
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