oldest age a child might wean? - Page 2

[mother_sunshine]

Joan!!
I'm so glad you saw this thread and posted.

PMing you

[Girl Named Sandoz]

Originally Posted by Meiri

Eternal Grace, That's a range, not an average or even a set of averages.

[/math lesson] And we're on the same page on this issue.

Yes, you are right of course, guess I shouldn't post on only 3 hours sleep.

And to think I took biostatistics in uni.

[eminer]

Originally Posted by Attached Mama

IMHO 10 years is too long!

Many of us used to think so, when our first baby was small, and/or when we were new to MDC. Watch out or you might get corrupted. :P

[UrbanPlanter]

I can only post here after mother_sunshine and mom4tot post

and eminer!

anyway, this thread is actually very refreshing to me.

I have hit another slump of "I can't believe he's still nursing and waking me up at night and I don't know how much longer I can go" (he'll be four years old next month, btw). But, reading this thread makes me want to be more nurturing with the breastfeeding, rather than resistant. And, he doesn't nurse that much anymore, anyway. Just waking, once or so during the day, and to sleep, and then, of course, the night waking which could be once or none or every two hours, depending on the night.

anyway... he's only four. and has allergies and issues which would benefit from my milk/immunities.

I worry about societal repurcussions sometimes... but I still find myself broadcasting our bfing status when it comes up. Like, last month, I admitted to a parent at ds's preschool that he is still nursing, and then she told me some "true" story about a grown man who was married with children, but could never take his family on a vacation away from home bc he had to be able to go nurse from his own mother every day. I said "yeah, right".

where is mom2threenurslings on this thread?

[Ahappymel]

Originally Posted by twins10705

So I posted saying I thought it was shameful that they would judge a mother for providing milk for her child

My guess is that the mom nursing the 10 yr old might not even have milk...my 4 1/2 year occasionally nurses although I don't have a drop left. His emotional needs are just as important as his nutritional needs...he'll nurse until he's done even without the milk...and believe me...
Although it is nice connection time with him, I'd be fine to have my body back to myself too

[Mom4tot]

UP


I have to laugh at the story your friend told you That's quite the jump from 4 to 40

I've said it before, but your ds is so lucky to have a mom so willing to meet his needs

[Meiri]

Please explain, with evidence, how breastfeeding impedes the child's development of their own immune system.

This wasn't a rhetorical question. If you've got some evidence that we need to see in order to continue making fully informed decisions Attached Mama, please do not keep us in the dark.

[mother_sunshine]

Urban Hang in there. You're an awesome mama.

Wow, this is like a reunion or something. Lots of wonderful old faces. Sooo nice to see you all again. And welcome to the new faces .

[UrbanPlanter]

btw, today ds informed me that he would stop nursing when he is sixteen







!

[TiredX2]

Originally Posted by UrbanPlanter

btw, today ds informed me that he would stop nursing when he is sixteen

I've talked DS down to by the time he's 7.

[Meiri]

DD told me 8 at one point, has since revised it to 7.

What we don't know is what she means by 7: stopping when she turns, or continuing while she is until she isn't any more.

I guess I'll know sometime in April.

[Ahappymel]

Originally Posted by UrbanPlanter

btw, today ds informed me that he would stop nursing when he is sixteen







!

LOL I've got you beat My little one once told me that he is going to nurse FOREVER
I told him Okay, but I'll understand if someday he changes his mind

[Ruthla]

Originally Posted by Attached Mama

IMHO 10 years is too long!

Then don't nurse your children for 10 years! Breastfeeding is a relationship between two people- if mama's not comfortable with something, that needs to be respected.

Many children self-wean long before 10 years of age. Many moms do a mutual, child-respectful weaning long before then, even if the child wasn't quite ready to wean all on his/her own. Nothing is wrong with either of those things- just as nothing is wrong with a 10yo continuing to nurse if he or she chooses to do so and his/her mother is comfortable with it.

[TiredX2]

Originally Posted by Meiri

DD told me 8 at one point, has since revised it to 7.

What we don't know is what she means by 7: stopping when she turns, or continuing while she is until she isn't any more.

I guess I'll know sometime in April.

DS keeps backing it up to how old DD is. I think he looks at DD (big sis) and thinks, "Wow, I won't nurse when I'm THAT old" but as she gets older so does his number. I don't see him going beyond 5, but that's just my prediction right now.

[josh&davesmomme]

I'm new to this forum, but wanted to add my 2cents.
I personally couldn't see myself nursing a 10 yr old - but looking back in my life-i could've never imagined that I'd be nursing a 4 yr old and a 5 month old at the same time but here i am! I did hear from one of my LLL leaders a story of a mom who was nursing a 10 yr old and it turns out the child developed cancer- and needed chemo- the Drs said that the child was lucky to still be nursing at age 10 through the chemo treatments and when she was finshed with her treatments and the cancer was gone the child weaned on her own-she said that sometimes there are not only emotional needs but very real physical needs that remain hidden why a child hasn't self weaned- and you just have to trust that whenever the needs, whatever they are, are met, the child will wean

[Meiri]

Welcome to MDC Josh&davesmom!

Interesting story and Wise doctor!

she said that sometimes there are not only emotional needs but very real physical needs that remain hidden why a child hasn't self weaned- and you just have to trust that whenever the needs, whatever they are, are met, the child will wean

Exactly!

[UrbanPlanter]

Originally Posted by josh&davesmomme

I'm new to this forum, but wanted to add my 2cents.
I personally couldn't see myself nursing a 10 yr old - but looking back in my life-i could've never imagined that I'd be nursing a 4 yr old and a 5 month old at the same time but here i am! I did hear from one of my LLL leaders a story of a mom who was nursing a 10 yr old and it turns out the child developed cancer- and needed chemo- the Drs said that the child was lucky to still be nursing at age 10 through the chemo treatments and when she was finshed with her treatments and the cancer was gone the child weaned on her own-she said that sometimes there are not only emotional needs but very real physical needs that remain hidden why a child hasn't self weaned- and you just have to trust that whenever the needs, whatever they are, are met, the child will wean

to MDC!

your first post is AWESOME - and very real for me, even tho ds is only just about four... but I totally believe what you said.

[josh&davesmomme]

thank you for the welcome! nice to find others who have older nurslings- i've particpated on other extended nursing forums (not on MDC)-but i've found i'm kinda out of place there now! Glad to find something dedicated to child led weaning and other moms like me!

[mom2tig99Nroo03]

Josh&davesmom, elcome

my current nursling turned 3 at the beginning of this month, her older brother weaned on his own shortly after turning 5.


when i was pregnant with him, i thought i may nurse til about 6 weeks, :LOL

like the saying goes, "when you know better, you do better"

[mother_sunshine]

josh&davesmomme

That's how I found Mothering too, when dd was around 5. The support here is wonderful.