are my in-laws insane?

[lovebug]

they are letting my 16 almost 17 year old SIL go to idaho to meet a guy she met online:

no i kinda dont have a leg to stand on. i met DH 4 years ago online when he was in Iraq the 1st time. but dh and i DO NOT support this! i was 19 when i first met DH IRL. and 20 when i moved to CO to live. the diff i had a great job and lived on my own. i flew out and payed for my own ticket.

am i out of place wheni say " are they insane"?

[Tofu the Geek]

I'd be VERY worried for her safety. If they are supportive of them meeting, they should have the boy come to their city for a visit and stay in a close by hotel. It would likely be a good idea for them to at least chat with his parents before the visit as well.

[lovebug]

Originally Posted by TechnoGranola

I'd be VERY worried for her safety. If they are supportive of them meeting, they should have the boy come to their city for a visit and stay in a close by hotel.

this is what i say

[Blue Dragonfly]

That is totally insane!! (Good advice TechnoGranola).

My brother had a friend (age 21) go to NY to meet a girl. His parents went along, and good thing! It turned out she was 15 or 16 (illegal anyway) which he found out about before they did the nasty (but not before they made out!). Luckily all the parents were there to help get the situation sorted out. A good learning lesson for him.

But when I think of all the terrible things that can happen to a 16 year old. (well to anybody really) Yikes!

I hope you can make them see the light.

[lovebug]

i dont think there light is on!!!!!! or the fuze i loose! one of the 2

[MillingNome]

For this day and age- yep, I'd say they are crazy.

[Red]

Oh, and then they'll be surprised when she does something stupid, marries a guy she hardly knows or meets a scary guy.

I have three dd's in that age range. I'm just sick!

[lovebug]

Originally Posted by iamthesmilingone

For this day and age- yep, I'd say they are crazy.

thank you

and red im just sick too!

[kkiolbassa]

Originally Posted by TechnoGranola

I'd be VERY worried for her safety. If they are supportive of them meeting, they should have the boy come to their city for a visit and stay in a close by hotel. It would likely be a good idea for them to at least chat with his parents before the visit as well.

This makes much more sense. And yes, I think your in laws are nuts. I have a 17 yo and I can't imagine letting him go off to meet someone he met on line. Yikes.

[lovebug]

this makes me feel so much better! im glad that im not crazy! and that my feelings are ok!

[Tofu the Geek]

I just realized where I got my idea of staying in a close by hotel from! When I was 16 I went on vacation with my best friend and her parents. I met a nice guy there and got his address and we started writing letters and talking on the phone. We wanted to visit each other so my parents took me to the city he lived in and stayed in a hotel with me. They had the boy come over the first afternoon we were there to visit with the entire family. When we went out for the evening my dad found out where we were going, got a phone # for the place (late 80's ago so nobody had cell phones) and also wrote down the license plate # of the guy's car. Then the next day he came to our hotel to visit again.

The next time we visited he came to our city and stayed at our house. Eventually it got to the point where I went and visited on my own when I was 19. I haven't talked to him in the last couple of years but we've been friends for about 18 years now.

I'd do the same thing for my DD that my parents did for me if there was a boy she met online (or on vacation or whatever). I wasn't bothered by it when I was a teenager, I was glad my parents payed for the trip to go visit him.

[Ruthla]

I agree- the parents are being very, very careless here!

[bobica]

how irresponsible of them! very sad for your SIL- i hope she stays safe!

[caffeine_kittie]

cant believe it!
she's suppose to be one of the guardians but look what she's doing?
insane i should say.
sorry to say but that's the truth.
who on her right mind would do such things? duh!

[lovebug]

well mama she went and is having a great time. but, i still think it should have never happened! i agree with ALL of you. this makes me feel so much better. now i know that IM not insane!

[momto l&a]

What part of Idaho?

[a-sorta-fairytale]

When i was 14 i met a guy in california on my school choir trip. He was older. We talked on the phone and wrote letters for a few years - he came to visit me when i was 16. He stayed in a hotel and my parents let us hang out as if he was a guy who lived there. They would NEVER have let me go visit some strange guy. When i was 18 and had graduated i went to visit him.

[Tofu the Geek]

Originally Posted by lovebug

well mama she went and is having a great time. but, i still think it should have never happened! i agree with ALL of you. this makes me feel so much better. now i know that IM not insane!

She's currently on the trip? Yikes, I'll feel much better when she is home safe and sound!

[Ruthla]

OK, she might luck out, but it's still a stupid risk to take in the first place! I hope she comes home safely soon!

[lovebug]

Originally Posted by Ruthla

OK, she might luck out, but it's still a stupid risk to take in the first place! I hope she comes home safely soon!

i know me about it ; )

i just hate having this stuff out of my hands!