please help with this one:violation of younger sibling.

[jannan]

i know the title is shocking but please let me explain: yesterday i throw out dds' dad . i wake up with a migraine, my whole body aches. well, today at this very moment i am at my sisters taking care of my 2.6 year old niece and her 5 year old daughter and my own dd. i am in the process of changing my niece the 2.6 year old she is laying on the living room floor i go into the kitchen to get a diaper. i hear rustling in the living room when i come back my 5 year old neice is scrambling away from her younger sister laying on the floor. i ask what happened and megan( the five year old) says that my dd put her face between megans crotch. my dd denies it but i finally got the truth. dd also tells me that megan licked her younger sisters crotch. the 2.6 has major speech issues due to a developemental delay . i let my niece and dd know that it was absolutely not ok to do that. i also asked if anyone had ever done it to them. they told me yes and then i asked for details but they fumbled and it was obvious that it was a lie. all i could tell them that it was not ok and that 2.6 body was absolutely private. advice please!

[jannan]

no responses?!

[raleigh_mom]

Not sure what to say, but sending

[cornflower_3]

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[Ruthla]

I'm not sure what to say either. Here are some more

[Greensleeves]

This must be hard for you. I hope someone who knows what to do can answer.

The first thought I had though is that the 5 year old should be talked to by someone who knows what they are doing. A professional who knows how to say things to her without leading her in any way. IMO this is something that is worthy of being checked into.

[mightymoo]

I agree, I would not assume they were lying when they said they had seen it elsewhere. They could have fumbled because they were told not to talk to anyone about it, or they may just not understand enough to describe.

[TeaBag]

Well, I don't know if this is similar or not, but I told my girls the other day "No, it is not okay to stick your finger into your sister's anus!" I know they haven't had anything happen as they are with me 99.9%of the time, but just normal curiousity. They are together all the time, naked 99% of the time and they are both very free with exploration of their own bodies. In fact, today dd1 asked me to show her her urethra and clitoris. We did make the point that they are not allowed to touch each other's bodies in that way, adn that if it continued to happen, we would have to start wearing clothing as a way of protecting ourselves.

So, while I would definitely not allow the 5 yr old to be alone with the younger girls, I wouldn't necessarily jump to the conclusion that something has happened to them.

Of course, just my opinion.

[abclan]

Follow your gut. Does it tell you that this is a curiousity about naked bodies or something else? When you mentioned the incident to yours sister, what was her take/reaction?