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post #121 of 1038
I'm chatting w/ my BF online while DP packs for a weekend with his GF and the MDC poly forum is hoppin'.... Hehehe... It's a happy poly evening!!

Ok Cupid is good. I've met a few poly mama friends on there. If you're on Tribe or Livejournal, there's poly family communities. Pagan gatherings are full of poly-folk. We used to do ren faire and we go to pagan gatherings. Most of our friends are that sort of geeky. There's also Meetup.com.
post #122 of 1038
yes, you're too damn far from nh! can't promise love but i think we'd at least have a fun lunch togehter chatting : )

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See my problem???
post #123 of 1038
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y'all had way too much fun while I was sleeping with kid feet in every part of my spine. all from one kid at that
post #124 of 1038
We started opening our marriage up via a completely sexual avenue. We were active in the local swingers community. What we quickly found was that we were more interested in developing deeper relationships rather than just one night stands. And we found that most of the ppl we gravitated towards were interested in the same thing.

We were part of one web-community for a couple of years but left it feeling like it was all about going out to party and get l&%d and that's not at all what we wanted. We tried some poly communities and didn't feel like we fit in. When we went back to the swingers community last year we found a much different dynamic among a nice group of folks. So, we remain active as a way to meet folks who are also interested in relationships as opposed to just sex.

Its an interesting sub-set of that community. We have often run across folks in the larger community who, because they have entered it for purely sexual reasons, have big issues with getting to know eachother more. Lots of jealousy issues. But most folks state quite clearly in their profiles what they want...and don't want. There are a couple of poly groups and our group of friends are mostly poly-minded.

I know that in many poly circles, the swinger lifestyle is very much looked down upon, and I can understand why. What we found was that we really didn't fit well into either group, but have had more luck meeting folks who we are compatible with in the poly sub-set of the swinger community.
post #125 of 1038
We tend to just meet people. One of my dh's ex-gf (and one of my best friends) was met thru freecycle. We received an aquarium from her. And another of his ex's is someone I met thru my local knitting group.

We are pretty open about it and the curious / open minded tend to ask questions.
post #126 of 1038
or go reading blogs! LOLL the semi-localness caught my eye

i have to say my thought has been that orientation is pretty much akin to the color of your underwear, nothing bad about discussing it but i never felt it had to be advertised to the world either. unless i am fairly confident that it's a "safe" topic, i don't go there. esp. for something like the weekly yoga class or the such. why risk creating discomfort when we have to be there every single week. sometime in life i heard something about bears don't poop where they catch their food kind of thing.

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We are pretty open about it and the curious / open minded tend to ask questions.
post #127 of 1038
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or go reading blogs! LOLL the semi-localness caught my eye

i have to say my thought has been that orientation is pretty much akin to the color of your underwear, nothing bad about discussing it but i never felt it had to be advertised to the world either. unless i am fairly confident that it's a "safe" topic, i don't go there. esp. for something like the weekly yoga class or the such. why risk creating discomfort when we have to be there every single week. sometime in life i heard something about bears don't poop where they catch their food kind of thing.
I know what you mean. It's not like we have a billboard over the house stating poly folks live here. But most folks "know" we are weird and polyness never seems to phase them after watching me walk barefoot while knitting in 40 degree weather on a day I am wearing my pirate patch instead of my prosthesis. :
post #128 of 1038
Definitely Tribe.net - it's kind of like myspace for freaks. And, um, I think I've said this before, but our circle of friends are mostly burners... meaning us freaks who go to Burning Man. And a lot of us are poly. Tribe.net is largely burners, too.
post #129 of 1038
so what's burning man?

{oh crikeys ANOTHER message board to suck up my time!!! LOLLLLL }
post #130 of 1038
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Burning_Man

http://www.burningman.com/
post #131 of 1038
tribes interesting, unfortunately i'm struggling to figure it out LOL not very intutitive
post #132 of 1038
Tribes is easier to use than myspace I think. About the same as Yahoo's 360. Maybe we can look at yours and give some tips?

Alright, alrighty, I FINALLY broke down and made an account at PMM again. There still isn't anyone around here, but I figured I might as well. And now I'm craving the beaded silver pendant I kept seeing advertised on their front page.
post #133 of 1038
This is the first time I can honestly say that I read every message here before I posted!

Hi all I am Teresa. I live near Portland OR with my two girls. While I would not consider myself Poly, I am drawn to the idea of it. I am in the middle of a divorce from my husband of 12 years. While married though, we became involved in the swinging community here. I had a hard time being so involved with people I did not know well. There was one couple we were involved with off and on for a period of about 3 years but we were definitely not the only couple they were involved with.

Fast forward to now. I would like to meet some Poly folks mostly for the 'tribe' aspect if not for the more 'friendly' aspect down the road. I just think I need to surround myself with open-minded, kid friendly folks. Folks who don't judge and understand that sometimes it takes more than one person to fulfill someone's needs.

Does any of that make sense? Anyway, I wanted to thank everyone for their candidness here. It really helps to know that I am not alone in my struggles.
post #134 of 1038
AMEN!!!! should you ever be in the neighborhood... LOLL ; )

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I just think I need to surround myself with open-minded, kid friendly folks. Folks who don't judge and understand that sometimes it takes more than one person to fulfill someone's needs.

Does any of that make sense? Anyway, I wanted to thank everyone for their candidness here. It really helps to know that I am not alone in my struggles.
post #135 of 1038
Hi Ladies, Just popping in to say I might just get to join you soon! I've been in a straight marriage for 8 years and my husband and I recently agreed that I would have the freedom to look for a girlfriend. It's a big change for our relationship but I'm excited about it.

Laura

ETA: hey look, it's my 666 post! Is that good or bad. hehe
post #136 of 1038
just wanted to jump in...

i am a partner to 2 (male and female) and a mother of 7 (ages 16y - 9mo)...the 10 of us live as one big happy-most-of-the-time family in the same house...

its nice to see that there is a place for me...seems that its hard for a lot of people to accept that alternative families exist, and that i am still "normal" even though my family is crazy...

i look forward to chatting with you all...

peace...
post #137 of 1038
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post #138 of 1038
Just wondering what you all would do if while your hubby was whispering sweet nothings in your ear, he accidentally said "I love you 'girlfriends name'".

I am shocked that this happened and don't really know how to feel about it and just need some advice.

thanks!
post #139 of 1038
I think I'd giggle and say "Forget who you're with, dear?"
I forget my kids' names half the time - I can't really expect DH to be perfect when I'm not, yk?
post #140 of 1038
Just fyi, someone recently copied some stuff written between 2 poly bi mamas on another AP site I go to and pasted it to a drama-stirring site and were being all kinds of catty and nasty and homophobic and stuff. I know the folks from the drama site frequent MDC as well so it's probably not a bad idea to be cautious.
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