I haven't read through everything here quite yet, as I was just directed to this thread after I posted something in the tribe forum. I am so excited to have found it, though. :-)
I (and my husband) are in a polyfidelitous relationship for, gosh, well, it's been almost 8 years since Anna and Jim moved in, although we've been together for longer than that. It just made since when Anna was pregnant with our son that "our" family and "their" family joined together, and 8 years and three MORE children later, we haven't looked back. We coparent, co-sleep, and, we are VERY joyfully co-breastfeeding our two youngest (they're about a month and a half apart).
As I put in my tribe post, my biggest problem is with my mil. While she was never "comfortable" with the idea of all of us living together as a family, she begrudgingly "dealt" with it. However, lately, she's just becoming downright rude and hostile toward us (the adults). Whenever I've taken the children to visit or she comes here (she lives about 20 minutes away), she won't even acknowledge my partners, is (according to the kids) telling the kids how "wrong" our lifestyle is, how it'll never work out, etc. It's really beginning to upset not only me (I could deal with me being upset), but the kids are getting upset as well. Jayse (7) told me Gram said I'm going to hell and that he'll never get to see me again! Why in the world would you tell a SEVEN year old that? I tried to say, "Well, Gram has different ideas about what's right and wrong, and sometimes Gram speaks before she thinks, but you know I would never leave you, and I'm pretty happy with how are family is, and I think what we're doing is right for all of us." But, really, I was flabbergasted and didn't know what else to say.
I don't want to keep the kids from their grandparents (and they're very attached to her...she sees them at least once a week, generally), but, at this point, it almost seems cruel to let them see her if she's filling their heads with this stuff. Thoughts? Ideas?