Just wanted to subscribe to this thread. DH and I are not officially poly... just a little slutty I guess
: We have had a few close friends who have sometimes been 'more than friends'. One of the things we've been struggling with is whether to keep this sort of thing a secret from DD or not.
Right now it's not something that happens frequently, but the potential is there for a more serious relationship (probably a triad - we don't generally do well with other couples). I guess the question is, would it be better to be open about it from the start so that she grows up thinking polyamory is normal, and risk her talking about it to inappropriate people like teachers at school etc.. Or do we not mention it and risk her freaking out about it when she is a teenager?
As for where to meet people who are open to polyamory, I'd suggest Burners. As in, people who go to Burning Man. There are regional chapters all over the place. Although a lot of Burners might be into partying a little too much for MDC
: we are mostly creative freaks... And monogamy is not the assumed default setting in our little world.