A bit about me
My name is Shane. I'm married to Mark for 12.5 years. We discovered open marriage/poly just over 2 years ago. To both of us we were totally unaware of these alternative relationships. After becoming informed we both agree that it is the more natural nature for both of us. We have three boys (10, 8, 6).
Neither one of us have a steady secondary partner. I have a friend that I've been seeing for the past 1.5 years. My attraction to him is more then his attraction to me. I see him about once a month, sometimes more depending on his schedule and wants. We play infrequently, no my choice. He has a steady girl that he sees, funny thing he does not consider her his girlfriend. His relationship with her is 'don't as don't tell'.
I have another friend that is a co-worker. We had a very brief relationship beyond friendship in the beginning (two weeks). After we played he decided that it was 'wrong' and wan't a total platonic friendship. I find it very difficult to supress my feelings. So far I've been able to stay his friend, it has been over 3 months now.
I'm a physical person who likes to have attention and give attention. If I like you I want to be able to touch you and be touched back. Very difficult when that can't be.
For Mark, we have a college friend that he became physically involved with last year. She lives in NC, we in CT. She is married in a 'don't as don't tell' situation. She is also pg with twins. Her mom lives semi near us so she comes up here a few times a year. They communicate multiple times a week. My friendship with her dwindled years ago, so they are closer then me and her.
So that is a bit about me and my family. I would love to meet someone that has the same attraction for me and I do them. It would be lovely to find someone to join the family.
Well for now I have friends that I was not able to have before, in the mono- mind set. That is beautiful
Tonight LOST is back and I'm going to go watch with Bryan, the guy I've been seeing the past 1.5 years.