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post #861 of 1038
I'm totally in love with a woman... who lives on the other side of the world. sigh. another long-distance relationship. somehow i had this idea that it would be less confronting for dp that my gf more of an online romance (goodness that sounds so silly, but I guess that's the age we live in ), but he's even more challenged by it than he was my last gf (who was a bit more IRL )
anyways... plans for visiting are in the making...
post #862 of 1038
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Originally Posted by kjm View Post
no triad here for me, are you thinking of serenekitten? I just had a baby but not with anyone--I'm a SMBC with a live in DP who is NOT co-parenting, unsure of when or how I'll ever find the time to be looking for a 2nd DP?? But you all give me faith!!

oops!
sorry about that... I must have been mistaken.
post #863 of 1038
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Originally Posted by majikfaerie View Post
I'm totally in love with a woman... who lives on the other side of the world. sigh. another long-distance relationship. somehow i had this idea that it would be less confronting for dp that my gf more of an online romance (goodness that sounds so silly, but I guess that's the age we live in ), but he's even more challenged by it than he was my last gf (who was a bit more IRL )
anyways... plans for visiting are in the making...
I can understand this. I find it easier to accept a partner's partner that I can actually meet/know than one I can't. Where there's mystery there are questions, and where there are questions there can be doubt. I can see how this situation would be difficult for me, in your dp's position, and I'd probably want a lot more communication and reassurance if I couldn't talk or meet with the other person myself.
post #864 of 1038
yeah, eilonwy; that's exactly what he said.
I got them to have a chat on messenger, and that seemed to help a lot. I would dearly love to have a gf that I can see on a regular basis, I'm so in love with her. sigh
post #865 of 1038
I can't believe I just sat here for an hour typing out a post and lost it.... Im new here. Hi. I'll have to redo all of it, but....

"Hi, my name is Christine and Im in love times three...."


I'll be back.
post #866 of 1038
welcome
post #867 of 1038

A bit about me

Hello

My name is Shane. I'm married to Mark for 12.5 years. We discovered open marriage/poly just over 2 years ago. To both of us we were totally unaware of these alternative relationships. After becoming informed we both agree that it is the more natural nature for both of us. We have three boys (10, 8, 6).

Neither one of us have a steady secondary partner. I have a friend that I've been seeing for the past 1.5 years. My attraction to him is more then his attraction to me. I see him about once a month, sometimes more depending on his schedule and wants. We play infrequently, no my choice. He has a steady girl that he sees, funny thing he does not consider her his girlfriend. His relationship with her is 'don't as don't tell'.

I have another friend that is a co-worker. We had a very brief relationship beyond friendship in the beginning (two weeks). After we played he decided that it was 'wrong' and wan't a total platonic friendship. I find it very difficult to supress my feelings. So far I've been able to stay his friend, it has been over 3 months now.

I'm a physical person who likes to have attention and give attention. If I like you I want to be able to touch you and be touched back. Very difficult when that can't be.

For Mark, we have a college friend that he became physically involved with last year. She lives in NC, we in CT. She is married in a 'don't as don't tell' situation. She is also pg with twins. Her mom lives semi near us so she comes up here a few times a year. They communicate multiple times a week. My friendship with her dwindled years ago, so they are closer then me and her.

So that is a bit about me and my family. I would love to meet someone that has the same attraction for me and I do them. It would be lovely to find someone to join the family.

Well for now I have friends that I was not able to have before, in the mono- mind set. That is beautiful

Tonight LOST is back and I'm going to go watch with Bryan, the guy I've been seeing the past 1.5 years.

Enjoy!
post #868 of 1038
welcome to you too, shane
post #869 of 1038
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post #870 of 1038
so... yesterday my GF finally talked to her DH about the relationship (he didn't exactly know), we were totally nervous that he was gonna freak... but he was completely fine about it
post #871 of 1038
Haven't posted in a while, so thought I'd drop in and say hi!
Not a lot has changed around here; DH gets out of jail at the end of the month, so he'll be back home (yay!), and we're wanting to TTC this summer. I'm planning to go back to school to study law, and it seemed to make more sense to have a baby BEFORE law school than in the middle of it, and I don't want to wait until AFTER, because I'll be, like, 37 or 38 by then.

Unfortunately, it looks like we'll be stuck in our crappy too-small-for-us house for the forseeable future. We're going to see about putting a bunk bed in DD's room, for her to sleep on top with a full-sized bed below for me to sleep with the baby (3 adults plus a baby is NOT going to fit in our master bed!). DSS's will have to continue sleeping on the hideabed when they visit. We really need a 4 bedroom house!
post #872 of 1038
Welcome new folk!!

mf: Yay!!

My bf came back from Jamaica recently from visiting family and brought me back some lovely Jamaican curry... Mmmm. DP has been cooking some lovely dishes with it! And then I taught bf how to use a condom properly. lol
post #873 of 1038
MMM jamaican curry! That sounds lovely!

is your BF in-tact, erthemam?
post #874 of 1038
It has been so lovely!! I can't get enough of it.

Yep, he's intact.
post #875 of 1038
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Originally Posted by erthe_mama View Post
It has been so lovely!! I can't get enough of it.

Yep, he's intact.
I knew someone intimately who was in-tact and he had NO IDEA how to use a condom and i had no idea how to use it, he was my first intact partner.

how did you teach him? feel free to PM me if its too personal.
post #876 of 1038
Hi, I'm bi :lmao

Oh, and married. But yeah
post #877 of 1038
welcome autumn moon
post #878 of 1038
Crap, I just joined your cult.
post #879 of 1038
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Originally Posted by Autumn Moon View Post
Crap, I just joined your cult.

welcome

don't worry. it's a nice cult. one of the requirements is a love of cake.
post #880 of 1038
Hi...bi mama here who is feeling such a strong yearning/pulling toward a poly life, I feel like something is missing...
I love my dh, he is really quite possibly the most wonderful husband in the universe but I just feel like there is someone else out there - I don't know how to explain it. I just feel like I am poly at heart and need to express it. So I'm going to hang out with you guys.
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