Poly Families - Page 46

[Heinleinesque]

I'm poly and have been for a long time. When I met my partner, he was in an open marriage but (as seems to be the case an awful lot) while his wife dated a lot, he rarely (twice in ten years?) found someone worth his time to date. And (as also seems to be the case an awful lot) as soon as he started dating me, his wife decided she wasn't OK with poly any more and wanted to close the relationship, causing Much Drama.

Long story short, he is with me now, and we're expecting our first, and he's still legally married to her. It's a bit of a mess but we're happy and healthy. I'm trying not to spare worry for the legal status of our baby as his child (and not hers!) but it's hard.

And since I've been pregnant, I have noooooooo desire to be with anyone else! I had recently started dating someone new and, while I still like him a lot, I am feeling NRE with my partner all over again and I want to spend 24 hours a day cuddled up to him. I'm sure it's at least partly because I'm not feeling at all sexual (I hurt everywhere and feel so sick and not wanting to be touched doesn't lend itself to sexuality) but I really just want him right now.

Have any other new moms of the poly pesuasion experienced this?

[majikfaerie]

Originally Posted by BettinaAuSucre

So this weekend i had a date with a couple for the first time. They are both college students going to two different schools about 2 hours from each other.

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Needless to say, i am extremely sore today and anticipating another meetup.

great news!

Originally Posted by Heinleinesque

I'm poly and have been for a long time. When I met my partner, he was in an open marriage but (as seems to be the case an awful lot) while his wife dated a lot, he rarely (twice in ten years?) found someone worth his time to date. And (as also seems to be the case an awful lot) as soon as he started dating me, his wife decided she wasn't OK with poly any more and wanted to close the relationship, causing Much Drama.

Long story short, he is with me now, and we're expecting our first, and he's still legally married to her. It's a bit of a mess but we're happy and healthy. I'm trying not to spare worry for the legal status of our baby as his child (and not hers!) but it's hard.

And since I've been pregnant, I have noooooooo desire to be with anyone else! I had recently started dating someone new and, while I still like him a lot, I am feeling NRE with my partner all over again and I want to spend 24 hours a day cuddled up to him. I'm sure it's at least partly because I'm not feeling at all sexual (I hurt everywhere and feel so sick and not wanting to be touched doesn't lend itself to sexuality) but I really just want him right now.

Have any other new moms of the poly pesuasion experienced this?

welcome

[Ravin]

Originally Posted by Heinleinesque

And since I've been pregnant, I have noooooooo desire to be with anyone else! I had recently started dating someone new and, while I still like him a lot, I am feeling NRE with my partner all over again and I want to spend 24 hours a day cuddled up to him. I'm sure it's at least partly because I'm not feeling at all sexual (I hurt everywhere and feel so sick and not wanting to be touched doesn't lend itself to sexuality) but I really just want him right now.

Have any other new moms of the poly pesuasion experienced this?

Yes. After a rather messy breakup with my last boyfriend, DH and I were pretty much monogamous until DW#2 came into our family. Between pregnancy and getting used to being a mom, and being dropped like rock by some other kind-of-romantically-interested friends when DD was a baby (they were a married couple and she had jealousy issues and he was kind of disappointed when I went to visit and had no sexual interest whatsoever, plus I kind of freaked over them having taken up smoking again), I just wasn't there sexually. Took several years to get my libido back to "ranging interest" level; I was too absorbed in DD and DH and I had issues to work through, many of which were resolved by DW#2 joining the family (which let me relax and stop stressing about not meeting DH's needs all by my lonesome, among other things).

[Peacemamalove]

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[Peacemamalove]

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[majikfaerie]

thanks for the links

[Autumn Moon]

MC Yogi

[Heinleinesque]

Originally Posted by Ravin

Yes. After a rather messy breakup with my last boyfriend, DH and I were pretty much monogamous until DW#2 came into our family. Between pregnancy and getting used to being a mom, and being dropped like rock by some other kind-of-romantically-interested friends when DD was a baby (they were a married couple and she had jealousy issues and he was kind of disappointed when I went to visit and had no sexual interest whatsoever, plus I kind of freaked over them having taken up smoking again), I just wasn't there sexually. Took several years to get my libido back to "ranging interest" level; I was too absorbed in DD and DH and I had issues to work through, many of which were resolved by DW#2 joining the family (which let me relax and stop stressing about not meeting DH's needs all by my lonesome, among other things).

(Can anybody please give me a brief on the acronyms? I am seeing "DS", "DD", "DH", "DW" etc. all over the site and I have no idea what they mean except by context.)

I'm so glad to know I'm not the only one. Some of my more skeptical friends are saying, "See! See! You aren't really poly!" and it's driving me kind of crazy.
That and desperately wishing that my partner would find another partner so we could stop fighting about sex when I feel like crap right now!

[eilonwy]

Originally Posted by Heinleinesque

(Can anybody please give me a brief on the acronyms? I am seeing "DS", "DD", "DH", "DW" etc. all over the site and I have no idea what they mean except by context.)

DS= dear/darling son
DD= dear/darling daughter
DH= dear/darling husband
DW= dear/darling wife
DP= dear/darling partner

And they're abbreviations, not acronyms. (Sorry, that's a pet peeve of mine. )

[Indigo73]

Originally Posted by Autumn Moon

MC Yogi

I love MC Yogi!

Originally Posted by eilonwy

DS= dear/darling son
DD= dear/darling daughter
DH= dear/darling husband
DW= dear/darling wife
DP= dear/darling partner

And they're abbreviations, not acronyms. (Sorry, that's a pet peeve of mine. )

Well... acronyms are abbreviations, or at least a subgroup. I'd consider that a list of acronyms or more specifically initialisms. Sorry, really into momenclature, etymology and syntax (even to the point of reading books).

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And all this talk about cake & layers has me thinking about triffle. Have to find a good GF recipe.

[Heinleinesque]

Thank you both!

[eilonwy]

Originally Posted by Indigo73

Well... acronyms are abbreviations, or at least a subgroup. I'd consider that a list of acronyms or more specifically initialisms. Sorry, really into momenclature, etymology and syntax (even to the point of reading books).

Yeah, me too. An acronym is more than simply an abbreviation or initialism; it's a WORD formed from such. NASA, laser, scuba-- all acronyms. NSA, DD, LMAO-- abbreviations, but not acronyms.

[majikfaerie]

Originally Posted by eilonwy

DS= dear/darling son
DD= dear/darling daughter
DH= dear/darling husband
DW= dear/darling wife
DP= dear/darling partner

And they're abbreviations, not acronyms. (Sorry, that's a pet peeve of mine. )

Though the "D" could stand for anything, depending on mood. Darn, Dumb, Dastardly, D!ck...

And: really? I'm of another opinion regarding the acronym thing (said as a grammar pedant).

Originally Posted by Indigo73

Well... acronyms are abbreviations, or at least a subgroup. I'd consider that a list of acronyms or more specifically initialisms. Sorry, really into momenclature, etymology and syntax (even to the point of reading books).

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And all this talk about cake & layers has me thinking about triffle. Have to find a good GF recipe.

Firstly, I agree, but can I ask what is "momenclature"? Is that the practice of naming "your mom" jokes? (I'm also a spelling pedant)

Originally Posted by eilonwy

Yeah, me too. An acronym is more than simply an abbreviation or initialism; it's a WORD formed from such. NASA, laser, scuba-- all acronyms. NSA, DD, LMAO-- abbreviations, but not acronyms.

Oh contraire:

Noun

Singular
acronym


Plural
acronyms

acronym (plural acronyms)

1. An abbreviation formed by (usually initial) letters taken from a word or series of words, and which is itself pronounced as a word, such as RAM, radar, or scuba; sometimes contrasted with initialism.
2. A pronounceable word formed from the beginnings (letter or syllable) of other words and thus representing the phrase so formed, e.g. Benelux = the countries Belgium, Netherlands and Luxembourg considered as a political or economic whole.
3. Any abbreviation so formed, regardless of pronunciation, such as TNT, IBM, or XML.

(bolding mine)

[eilonwy]

I know that these days "acronym" is applied to any abbreviation, but the fact that something has become accepted common usage doesn't really make it acceptable in my book. The "nym" part of the word "acronym" means "name"; They're distinguished from other abbreviations with good reason. Like I said, it's a peeve of mine. I didn't mean to start a huge debate. I get that English is ever-evolving, but in my personal opinion, that doesn't make such imprecision acceptable. That's just me.

[majikfaerie]

Yeah but by that definition I'm right in correcting all the Americans who insist on dropping necessary "U"s from words like "colour" and "A"s from words like "haemorrhage" and "connexion" would be a proper spelling. As would "olde" and "wyf" and so on. Me, I'm all for it! Now back to your regularly scheduled programme.

[erthe_mama]

Originally Posted by majikfaerie

As would "olde" and "wyf" and so on.

Don't forget erthe!

I absolutely love this conversation!

I wonder how many poly people are also grammar/punctuation/etc. nerds? Heehee.

[majikfaerie]

Originally Posted by erthe_mama

Don't forget erthe!

I absolutely love this conversation!

I wonder how many poly people are also grammar/punctuation/etc. nerds? Heehee.

and faerie
Actually, I was wondering that myself, and came up with the hypothesis that there's probably a high percentage of nerdy/ educated people in the poly community.

[erthe_mama]

Oh yes! Faerie! Good point.

I agree.

[Indigo73]

Originally Posted by majikfaerie

Actually, I was wondering that myself, and came up with the hypothesis that there's probably a high percentage of nerdy/ educated people in the poly community.

Absolutely, positively agree.

[katharinerose]

Had a good day today. I have a coffee/possibly dinner date set for Thursday with a very cool seeming guy. And DW is awesome. She's excited for me, and even chatted with him online a bit this evening.

This is my first actual date in really ever, since DW & I jumped straight from long distance to living together. Any poly dating tips?