Poly Families - Page 47

[majikfaerie]

poly dating tip #1: always maintain open honest communication with all parties.

[erthe_mama]

poly dating tip #2: Make sure your DW has something exciting to do during your date. Find a babysitter so she can also go out somewhere with a freind or something. I find it really helps to curb any jealous feeling that might crop up.

[Autumn Moon]

Grammar wars *drool*

opcorn

[majikfaerie]

[eilonwy]

My redhead uses the "word" "irregardless". I told him it wasn't a word, and he pulled out definitions and proof, ending with, "It's not a respectable word, but it is a word." Okay, if you like... but I'm still not going to say it.

Rules, I believe, ought to be mutually negotiated with the sole exception of communication. I can think of relationships wherein it would have been exceptionally rude of me to "plan" for my partner to have an evening out just because I was going out that night. It all depends on the person. Be polite, honest and fair; Don't ask your partner to stay up waiting for you if you don't know what time you're going to be home, and don't say that you'll be home at a certain time if that's unlikely. I've also learned that while it's not nice to gush on and on and to go into incredible detail about how wonderful your date was, it's also quite rude to lie and say, "It was okay" if it was spectacular. Nobody feels better when you do that. It's best just to be truthful: "I had a really great time tonight, I'm looking forward to seeing Soandso again" gets the point across without you rubbing it in your partner's face.

[katharinerose]

Thanks to all.... We're definitely keep lines of communication open (to the point where I think sh'es getting annoyed with my checking in all the time). DW is looking forward to having the house to herself for an evening, I think. She's a happy hermit.

I prefer to make up my own words. (e.g. Disempanted: The state of having had your pants removed) But grammatical errors drive me nuts, esp. homophone errors.

[majikfaerie]

my favourite word is "Soquine" - it's the quality an onion has that makes you cry. as in "This is a very soquine onion; it has a high level of soquinity".
I think this word is so great; I don't know why everyone doesn't use it.

[somanythings]

Originally Posted by majikfaerie

my favourite word is "Soquine" - it's the quality an onion has that makes you cry. as in "This is a very soquine onion; it has a high level of soquinity".
I think this word is so great; I don't know why everyone doesn't use it.

Does it rhyme with "whine" or "bean"?
My favorite words are Kalashnikov and necrotizing fasciitis.

[majikfaerie]

Originally Posted by somanythings

Does it rhyme with "whine" or "bean"?
My favorite words are Kalashnikov and necrotizing fasciitis.

oooh necrotizing facsiitis a girl after my own heart!
I've always been fond of perniciously blithesome.
and Why Not make up new words? After all, we're all here on a Polyamory thread

[eilonwy]

I'm fond of scintillating scotoma myself... but I usually just say that I have an aura. I can't remember whether it was this thread or somewhere else entirely where someone linked the best polyamory t-shirt ever: Polyamory is wrong! It's either multiamory or polyphilia, but mixing Greek and Latin roots is wrong! I think I'm going to start telling people I'm polyphilic and watching their heads spin around.

[Indigo73]

Originally Posted by eilonwy

I'm fond of scintillating scotoma myself... but I usually just say that I have an aura. I can't remember whether it was this thread or somewhere else entirely where someone linked the best polyamory t-shirt ever: Polyamory is wrong! It's either multiamory or polyphilia, but mixing Greek and Latin roots is wrong! I think I'm going to start telling people I'm polyphilic and watching their heads spin around.

My favorite word of the moment is whinge.

[katharinerose]

Originally Posted by eilonwy

I'm fond of scintillating scotoma myself... but I usually just say that I have an aura. I can't remember whether it was this thread or somewhere else entirely where someone linked the best polyamory t-shirt ever: Polyamory is wrong! It's either multiamory or polyphilia, but mixing Greek and Latin roots is wrong! I think I'm going to start telling people I'm polyphilic and watching their heads spin around.

I've seen that Tee, too, and find it hysterical. How, with the acknowledged high percentage of smartypantses around, did we wind up with a mixed-root word? Shouldn't there have been outrage?

[eilonwy]

Originally Posted by katharinerose

I've seen that Tee, too, and find it hysterical. How, with the acknowledged high percentage of smartypantses around, did we wind up with a mixed-root word? Shouldn't there have been outrage?

Perhaps we're too busy juggling multiple partners to be outraged...

[majikfaerie]

Originally Posted by katharinerose

I've seen that Tee, too, and find it hysterical. How, with the acknowledged high percentage of smartypantses around, did we wind up with a mixed-root word? Shouldn't there have been outrage?

oooh good point

Originally Posted by eilonwy

Perhaps we're too busy juggling multiple partners to be outraged...

y'know, considering English is a completely bastardised language, and we regularly apply our own (german-based) grammar to all those French-stolen words, why not mix Greek and Latin roots? Isn't that what polyamory is all about? mixing it up and making new rules?

[eilonwy]

Originally Posted by majikfaerie

y'know, considering English is a completely bastardised language, and we regularly apply our own (german-based) grammar to all those French-stolen words, why not mix Greek and Latin roots? Isn't that what polyamory is all about? mixing it up and making new rules?

For the same reason I refuse to allow "acronym" to apply to any abbreviation that doesn't spell a word?

[AllSacred]

I have arrived..pant pant pant

Hi all...it only took me two weeks... but I made it through all 5000 pages of the poly marathon here. I'm Auset, a mama of many.. married over a decade to my wonderful hubby. We've had lots of ups and downs but truly are "partners". After a variety of weirdness and issues with dh, I found out about polyamory. It was an emotional process of understanding the truths about polyamory and eachother. I am naturally poly-fi. For me it's easy to love and be loved by others. I don't/haven't explored this side of myself sexually bc dh and I are/have been hyper possessive of eachother these many years and it never crossed my mind as a possibility. Our relationship has recently gotten so much healthier after freeing eachother up more in other parts of our relationship. I told dh that I really feel poly-fi and my ideal life includes us + another hubby. At first he felt weird bc I told him that I see him and the other male together sexually even though he's never said anything about being bi.....but for me its more about dh having someone who is his best friend/lover. He's really super closed emotionally so doesnt have any good friends...but he comes from a culture where guy friends are very touchy feely close...sooo unlike the usa and its homophobia. I get tingles imagining a relationship where those needs are met for him and i get to "love more" which is my nature. It's not really based on a sexual desire for me but sex comes naturally with those you love kwim? He admits to a touch of bi-ness but still feels very possessive of me and fears another man would steal me....so we've agreed to be open to the universe for now. I'm a highly spiritual woman and the concept of polyamory has really broken through some conditionings and disfunctions. I'm so greatful for this opportunity to learn and grow.

So, there it is. I'm here to stay. I am poly-fi in my heart and I wave my flag

Naking so forgive my tiepoz

~Love is my umbrella~

[AllSacred]

Btw

I would reeeally love some poly gal pals to chat with who understand where I'm coming from I'm on yahoo messenger allsacredwoman

~Auset

[majikfaerie]

welcome

[shanetedissac]

New relationship possibility

Hello all:

Tiss the place to share My neck of the woods is not that poly Polly is not what I can share much around here. Non-mono dating is more the norm. OK, so that is the little background.

I'm on a few dating sites. A local guy contacted me on one. It was refreshing that the conversation with him did not start out with my sexual preferences We started chatting on Thursday and I offered to meet in person that night.

I've got a macked our schedule so the only time I had was 1am. He agreed and we chatted in a parking lot for an hour. It was comfortable. He has not heard of poly.

We met again Saturday night at his place. Still very casual and comfortable. He played his violine for me.

Oh, he is 11 years younger then me: 25. This could be interesting! or could be nothing very quick.

[Peacemamalove]

Originally Posted by erthe_mama

poly dating tip #2: Make sure your DW has something exciting to do during your date. Find a babysitter so she can also go out somewhere with a freind or something. I find it really helps to curb any jealous feeling that might crop up.

Great idea