Shane, that sound like you had a really great night!
Bettina, I don't have any BTDT advice but I would think that you should try to steal a piece of his time (I realize he is busy), but you need to be honest with him about your feelings. And you need him to be honest about his. Oh, and you are not going to be ignored here!
So a couple of nights ago, I went to our prospects house. I found out right before we left that she was hoping I would go spend time with her BF while she spent time with my DP. I wasn't comfortable enough with him, as I don't know him at all, and told her I wanted her there. She said that was fine with that, but her attitude all evening proved otherwise.
I did spend a little alone time with her BF, and we got along great, to my surprise.
Well, this actually ended up being a speed bump for me. For the last three weeks that DP and I have been courting this girl she has continuously said she was leaving her BF, she just was not sure when. I didn't believe her so I put it to the back of my head. Well, now seeing that her BF and I get along so well, and he is very interested in courting me I have decided I need to take a step back while they figure thier own issues out. I don't/won't get involved with either under these circumstances. I will not get close to him, knowing he has no clue she is planning on leaving. I don't want to see her, or see a prospective friend/lover get hurt. I will be talking to her about this today or tomorrow. So, even though this didn't turn out exactly how I had hoped, it opened up my eyes to something I was trying to ignore. Someone who will lie to her primary partner will lie to me. DP doesn't want to take a step back like myself, so I told him he could continue to date her if he wanted. We all have to learn from our own experiences... I'm just not willing to be someone elses learning experience.