Originally Posted by blissmonkey
Would that really be grounds for divorce? Would as judge see it as child abuse? Of course, even IF it went that far, he would get visitation, and be alone with the child. Realistically, would the child be better off with a foreskin but no father, and a bitter exhausted mother who has to leave him with a sitter so she can work like a dog to support her two kids? And what if I could actually educate him (ie: explain all the facts, then show him the horrible disgusting photos and disturbing videos, which I will!) and he agrees (even just to shut me up) and we take the baby to visit the family (who is VERY traditional) back in "the old country" My God, they could take the baby somewhere and have it done--and under third-world sanitation conditions! (I mean, I'm talking about a country where you can have your dental work done by a so-called "dentist" who walks the streets with a box of loose teeth and a pair of pliars! No joke!) I am getting freaked out about it the more I think about it. Other moms in this situation (esp. in a "mixed marriage" who got their husbands to change their minds) please, tell me, what did you say? What finally got through their thick skiulls?????
You don't need to have "grounds" for a divorce in order to end a marriage. You can divorce, legally, for any reason. And, in states like mine which are 'no fault' divorce states, there isn't any weighing of whose fault it is with regard to how assets are divided up.
Remember, some people cut their daughters for cultural/religious reasons. What lengths would you go to protect your child if he was a daughter?
If your husband is unable to understand where you're coming from, he refuses to consider your concerns, and won't respect your wishes and maternal instincts or the inherrent right of your son to be free from non-medically indicated, amputative surgery...will he be able to love and respect the two of you in the other ways that matter?
I'm sorry you're going through this, and I agree it's a really tough situation but I also agree with others who have said that a child's genital integrity should never be on the table as a marriage bargaining chip...and if it gets to the point where it is, what kind of marriage is it anyway? KWIM?