Would you save your Dh or your child?

[its_our_family]

If you were put in a situation where you could only save your Dh or your child who would you save? Why?

(I'll post my opinion later)

[mamawanabe]

This is such an easy one for me (save the kid). And I would never forgive DH if he saved me instead of my baby.

Now the choice bewteen a sibling or a best friend. Now that is a tough one . . .

[ekblad9]

What she said!

[mamalisa]

My dh is a grown man capable of thaking care of himself. My child is small and helpless and depends on me for everything. I wouldn't even stop to think about which one to save, my child of course.

[Trishy]

Definately the child. I know dh would do the same, I don't even have to ask him.

[DiaperDiva]

During our premarital counseling, DH's uncle(who married us) said if we were in a burning building to save each other because we could always have more kids.

He can screw himself too I voted save child. I can always get another husband

[LoveBeads]

This is an absolute no brainer. I would save my child, DH would expect me to save our child, and he would absolutely do the same if given the same choice.

LoveBeads
Maddy Moo - 2.5

[frogertgrl]

'Die trying to save the second'

Second what? Second child?

If I die saving the child, is that the second option or ???

I voted 'other' since I wasn't sure that I fit that third option since I only have one child.

[lilyka]

Save the child - Dh has great life insurance and we hardly ever see him anyway.

[Bladestar5]

Definitely the child, but if I could save them both, I would try, because I would be awful lonely without dh, since he does do the laundry and some cooking, and he changes dipes...

[LavenderMae]

I voted child. I love my husband so dearly and for so many reasons and it would be heartbreaking (to say the least) to have to live w/o him. However, as a mother I have to protect my child/ren. I don't feel my husband is dispensable but to live w/o out one of my children is unimaginable. Plus if I did safe my dh and not our child he would hate me. These kind of questions really make me sad to think about.

[lucina3]

Definitely I would save my children. My children are completely dependant on me and I have a responsibility to them.

DiaperDiva, the counselling we did (via videos/workbooks) said something similar. I'm glad it wasn't the minister (my dad!) who said it because he would have heard realllllllllllly bad words when I voiced my opinon on that one!

[its_our_family]

I vote child and possibly die trying to save dh...depending on the situation.

I know it isn't a fun question and this may sound silly but with all the talk of war and such I've been thinking a lot about it. We just moved to an area that they say would be one the first attacked if it were going to happen. i'm not living in fear just wondering what my own reaction would be.

[~Kindred Spirit~]

A study/article on this topic!

Most mothers will pick to save their child...and most men will pick to save their wives.

I read a very interesting article on this very topic. They explained it as nature's way of keeping the family *together*. The husband protects the wife, which basically means the whole family, because the mother protects the children, kwim?

Ugh, maybe if I dig I can find the article again....ANYWAYS...I would protect my children

[saturnine25]

My child, without hesitation. DH and I have actually discussed this and he would also save our child first.

Amy, mom to Tsuneo Phri, 09/12/01

[Mamato3boys]

I voted my child.

[glh]

Child, children no question. We even talked about it once and we both agreed we would save our children. I think I voted wrong though, I thought the die trying to save children meant you would save your child no matter what, while just saving child option meant you yourself were not in danger of dying. I think I way over thought the question. I should have just voted child.

[Irishmommy]

Child of course. Dh and I were actually talking about this last night, and we both agree we would eventually "get over" being widowed, but neither of us would ever recover from losing our kid.

I'm flying overseas in August with the two kids, and I think that if something were to happen, at least I'm with them too.

[candiland]

Child. DH wouldn't want to live if I chose him over her, anyway.

[levar]

My son.

Actually I would save any child. My husband and I have discussed this one a few times. There is this AWFUL commercial where a young child basically asks the audience if they'd save him from a speeding train wreck. Really freaked me out. I said YES without reservation. I decided that the only things that would stop me from risking [or trading] my life for a child would be risking or trading my own son [I wouldnt do that] or risking or trading both mine and my husband's life.

My husband agreed. As long as our son and one of us survived, we'd save children no doubt and other people most likely. Interesting that the thought was that men feel differently. My husband had a really really hard time with the *concept* of my dying. But did feel if it came to it our son needed *A* parent more than we needed a spouse. Interesting that we did take it to the next level of "If you knew your son and spouse were safe..." would you risk your life saving others. He actually had an easier time of it with this one conceptually and said "No Doubt, Yes"