I voted die trying to save the second. Because I know I could never let my child die, and I'm betting I could never let *any* child come to harm if I could help it either. But the thought of loosing my Dh is just horrible to me. Perhaps it will change when our baby is here in my arms, but I simply can not imagine living without my husband. Its actually a huge fear of mine, that he will die driving to work, or something... I just love him *so* much!
And I also don't think I could live with myself if I didn't try. Situations in life aren't so cut and dry. If both your child and husband were in peril, you wouldn't *know* that going back for the other would mean your death for sure... at least in most situations. So if I saved my baby, then watched my dh die, or know that I *might* have been able to save him, I just wouldn't be able to live with myself afterwards.
Very tough survey. I've been reading responses since it got posted, and its taken me this long to really think of what I would do.