My SIL had a little family get-together yesterday to celebrate our pre-baby state. It was too bad because everyone arrived so excited to talk about the pending birth and baby, but as each topic was introduced everyone realized how controversial it all was and it got more and more tense.
For instance, dh's dad is a pediatrician, so dh asked him if he would vouch for us to get an early discharge from the hospital. FIL said no in very strong terms, and my mom actually pumped her fist in the air in triumph.
: It makes me so mad because she's never read a single book on child-raising in her life and she just plucks her opinions out of tv or her friends' gossip or wherever and then pushes them so strongly. I mean, this is a woman who let her OB talk her into a c/s after only 6 hours in the hospital with everything going fine. And then she raised us so well that both my sister and I suffered depression for years. The hitting and emotional manipulation in her childraising technique was lovely also. She should feel happy I'm having kids at all, let alone that I should treat them even remotely like she treated me.
I also asked FIL a careful question about the chickenpox vax, just to test the waters. He responded with little respect for people who question vax, and then my sister said she has two friends with autistic kids who both feel certain it was caused by vax - and then we all got quiet. A fun party.
My mom even freaked out at just the mention of flushable diapers. God forbid cloth! What's her problem?
But it was useful because we learned where our parents' limits are, and which topics we can discuss with them and which we can't. So I guess it was a learning experience. It's a bit sad, but dh reminded me that we're still a lot closer with our parents than most people are.
Anyway, dh installed our closet organizer and we may have found a painter to paint our apartment. So it's all moving forward, and hopefully the place will be all fixed up by the time db arrives.
Also, dh called our Bradley teacher with a question about what relaxation techniques we should be practicing, and she busted out with compliments about how we are so much more well-informed and willing to work with the program than most of her students! How nice to hear! All we have done is read the Sears birth book and Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way and practice the exercises they recommend. I don't feel like we've done a lot but it makes me feel better about the fact that only 50% of NYC Bradley students make it without medication - I hope it means we have a better chance.
The excellent news is that I had a stroke of brilliance that may land me in a better birthing situation. My MW practice is breaking up because basically the ones I like are ditching the ones I like not so much. I was supposed to be their last group patient, so I called my favorite one and asked in I could be her first private patient instead! And she said yes! pending administrative stuff and arranging backup. Her backup is going to be the other MW who I love! So this is wonderful! I could be guaranteed that one of the MWs I love will attend my labor/birth.
My brain keeps up its mischievous little game of letting me sleep just fine on the weekends but not letting me sleep when I have to go to work the next day. Good practice, I guess!
Have a good week, mamas!