Wish us luck.

[darkpear]

I am at the end of my tolerance for diapering Amalie. The cost of sposies for two kids is killing us - cloth would be even more costly, because we'd be washing them at the coin laundry. She has been resistant to every gentle tactic I've tried to get her on the potty. Well, that's not strictly true, she'll SIT on the darn thing for hours, naked or clothed, and then ask for a diaper when she's ready to go. She has had bladder/bowel control since she turned two, day and night.

Soooo...

We are going cold turkey. No more diapers - I'm going to fib a bit and tell her the store ran out. (Sears actually recommends this for stubborn/spirited kids, and that's her for sure!) I bought her a bunch of panties and so far she loves wearing them - until it's time to go, and then she requests a diaper.

Please don't flame me mamas... I love my kids to death and I hate hate hate having to use this kind of tactic. I always thought my family would be a democracy! But Amalie has a really hard time with transitions and boundaries, and I have come to understand that sometimes she just needs someone to lay down the law. Negotiations, explanations and choices just make her mad. (She's also a kid who won't go to bed on her own, she just stays up getting more and more miserable... but that's another story.)

We have one diaper left after the one she's in now. *gulp*

[Panthira]

Oh, good luck! Let us know how things are going. I thought about doing this with my 2 yr old DS but then decided he wasn't ready yet (he's younger than your DD).

[allnaturalmama]

Good luck, Simone! We did almost the exact same thing with DS1. He was 3 yrs, 2 mos, and had complete control of bowel/bladder, but just liked wearing diapers. Finally we told him that when we ran out of dipes (we were using sposies at the time), we wouldn't be buying any more. He had 2 accidents over the course of the next week, and then went accident free!

Currently DD2 is on day 9 with no diapers (except nap and night-time). She's a few months before her third b-day, and just decided to sit on the potty last week out of the blue. Since then, she's been wearing panties during the day and loving it. She has had quite a few more accidents than her big bro did when he went cold turkey, though.

[IncaMama]

good luck!!! just make sure if you go out shopping with her that you skip the diaper aisle. nothin' worse than a toddler finding out you're lying! LOL!!! *hug*

[birthjunkie27]

Good luck with this! Ds is the same way...he doesn't do well with choices (sometimes)....he just needs us to lay down the law sometimes.

[Geofizz]

Darkpear, when dd was about the same age we went cold turkey as well. It took 2 days.

[oliversmum2000]

im thinkiong of you!

[darkpear]

Thanks for all the encouragement and BTDT stories. I was really feeling like an ogre mom

She was dry all night, but had an accident just now and is pretty mad I am thinking it will take a few of them for things to really sink in - this girl is SO stubborn. No idea where she gets it from

[judybean]

hooray that it seems to be going fairly well !

[aisraeltax]

good luck w that...seems it may be going well already. both my boys were 3 when they potty trained..i heard cd'd babies do it earlier, but im not holding my breath.
i potty trained myself when ds1 was 2 but then i started studying for exams and slacked off...he went back into diapers until he was 3...just the nature of things.

[amis2girls]

Originally Posted by michelemiller

good luck!!! just make sure if you go out shopping with her that you skip the diaper aisle. nothin' worse than a toddler finding out you're lying! LOL!!! *hug*

[darkpear]

So what exactly about a coffee table says to the almost-3-year-old mind "This is a good place to poop?!" :

Maybe tomorrow will go better...

[judybean]

Originally Posted by darkpear

So what exactly about a coffee table says to the almost-3-year-old mind "This is a good place to poop?!" :

Oh come on... you can't tell me *you* haven't thought the same thing every time you walk by it... ... right?!? ...

Sorry mama... I hope things *do* go better for you tomorrow.

Just two days ago I was talking with a wonderful woman at a store who has seven children, the youngest being 15. She heard me talking to dd2, whose name is Katherine. She commented that she had a katherine as well, but she was a freshman in college now ...

anyway... in our chatting, she told me, "It's amazing how the years seem to fly, but some days seem to last forever."

I just keep thinking about this. ... I'm sure your days are really seeming long right about now. (um, the two in diapers thing is driving me batty -- and Katherine will just turn two in two days!). ... but know we're all there, or we've all been there in our own way.

here's to a better tomorrow!

[kofduke]

gosh - if A. doesn't start using hte potty soon, I may think about this. He's driving me *nuts* - tells me he's about to pee or poo, but refuses to sit on the potty.....and then cries because his diaper is wet.

[darkpear]

Ugh. I don't know about this.

This morning I decided I'd sit in her room and keep her company till she peed in the potty. I mean, everyone has to pee in the morning, right? She was dry all night again and she sleeps for about 12 hours.

Well, we sat there for 3.5 hours and nada. Eventually she told me to go away, so I did. Still nada. She finally peed a bit on the floor and ran to the potty after the fact. Is this progress?

She's already stopped asking for diapers, too. She really likes her panties, but she doesn't seem to mind soiling them

I'm just not sure how long I should stick with this... I hate to push her if she's not ready, but if she's not ready now, when will she be? Physically she's been ready for a long time. I can be as persistent as I need to be with this (my freaking CAT is toilet trained, and you don't want to know how long that took), but I don't want to traumatize her.

[Panthira]

My 14 yr old daughter will kill me for telling you this, but she wasn't potty trained until she was 3.5 yrs old. I tried before that, believe me. Finally we were on a camping trip and I showed her how to squat and pee in the woods. When we got home, I was outside talking to some neighbors while she played with the neighborhood children. All the sudden the kids came running over to me saying my daughter was peeing on the grass, and there she was, squatting on the grass, little butt hanging out, peeing happily away.

She was potty trained after that.

[Thursday Girl]

ah i am going through this now. i also went cold turkey with dd. let's see two or three weeks ago. atill having accidents. she hardly ever tells me when she has to pee i have to ask at the right time. i have come to the point where i jst say "it's time to go potty" and sometimes (this is horrible i say 'you can't do x until you sit on the potty") she did ask once today for a poop that "what letter does it look like, a j?" then after i gave her her privacy "i squished the letter" three weeks and still accidents but only at home. she goes when she is out. she went to her grampy's for three dys with her aunt only one accident and it was poop. at home she has at leats one a day. she pees right on the floor then steps in it. arrgghh i have to admit it is driving me crazy and sometimes i just have to walk away cuz i am pissed off. i will not turn back. although i am on my last sposie (she was sposied josephine is all cloth) and don't want to buy more (diapers at night) so i have some toddler prefolds but NO cover that fits her. i tried all the large's so now i have to buy a cover but i have no frieaking money to do so. i really don't know what i a m going to do tomorrow night. ahh i love potty traing. she knows how i wish she would just do it. i mean what's so hard about it? seriosuley. ahh i'm tired i should sleep. good luck from onr potty teaching momma to another.

courtney

[StarCat]

I know its not meant to be, butthese stories are cracking me up!! I am in the process of intorducing the potty to Josie but not making her use it. I just put her on it occassionally and ask her if she wants to use it. She tells me just after she pees or poops , so she is on her way to recognizing it. I am hoping we have an easy time of it but not counting on it. Keep posting on how you guys are doing and whats working....and I'll store the info away for future use.

[darkpear]

I'm getting very discouraged I keep putting her on it, but she has not used the potty one single time. Half the time now she isn't even telling me that she's had an accident (does it even qualify as an accident if there's no actual attempt to use the potty involved?!), until I ask. And don't even get me started on the places she picks. If I don't see some kind of real progress by tomorrow, I will probably just get more diapers. Toddler diapers suck. Spending my day playing 'Follow That Smell' sucks far worse.

Originally Posted by jewelysmommy

she knows how i wish she would just do it. i mean what's so hard about it? seriosuley.

: :

[darkpear]

well, she went in the potty... ONE DROP... but that is progress! So we will persevere