child spacingHappy March, everyone!
I know Kate and I have different experiences, with our "babies" being eight years apart, so I just thought I would share a couple of comments about that. In our case, it just kind of worked that way. Griffin (born Nov. 97) was an incredibly spirited baby and I have to admit I was a basketcase for his first two years. I went back to work when he was six months old, so that added to the chaos. Well, by the time he was about four, I got thinking I would like to have another baby. It took me a full year to convince DH. LOL. And then, probably due to my advanced age (I'm almost 38), it took us two years to conceive. There was nothing medically wrong, it just wasn't happening.
But darling Tova was worth the wait. She is such a doll. And Griffin has been a wonderful big brother in every way -- even better than I could have hoped. I don't think he was overindulged, at least not in a negative way, and now he is a very spirited but kind, patient and fun little guy. He is self-sufficient in a lot of ways, and with DH working nights, it's good to know I can dedicate a lot of my energy to the baby without him getting upset. We will play board games while I'm nursing her, and he does all the work (rolls dice, moves figures, etc.) and never complains. It seems I will be able to overindulge Tova, too!
There are pros and cons to all age gaps, I'd say, but we all make our unique situations work for us. Tova and Griff may never be close playmates, but as adults they may find they have much in common (who knows?). My own sister is 15 years older than me (I was a bit of an accident, but it all worked out) and we're close as adults, although she was more like another parent to me as a child. Can you say built-in babysitter? DH jokes that we won't be able to afford Griffin's services, since he's a stickler for his allowance. Then again, as a dear friend at G's school pointed out, but the time Tova gets to junior high, I'll have attended 14 pumpkin socials. Egad!
Anyhow, that's a little about our experience. Maybe Kate has something to add ...
Cheers for now.