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Originally Posted by Yoshua
Just so you know, in a boys locker room, if someone is pointing at your penis and saying something derogitory 99.9% of the time they are telling their friends that you are a homo because you are different.
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Which means they are prejudiced as well as ignorant. Neither should be encouraged.
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| The best defense is to shift the blame, Yes it may not be the nicest but I fully believe that the boy being pointed at will not be left alone unless the person pointing begins to feel uncomfortable. |
There are many ways to make the attacker feel uncomfortable without implicitly agreeing with his prejudice. Attacked person could say, "Yeah, I've got more of my penis than you do of yours." He could say, "Don't you have something better to do than compare d!cks?" He could say, "Bigger, longer, and uncut." Or a million other things. Just the
attitude that your appearance is a source of pride can circumvent most taunting.
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And you are not promoting homophobia. The other boy obviously has an interest in your sons genetalia (sic). Your son is just letting the other boy know it's ok to look, but not touch.  |
A disapproving "See something you want?" sounds to me like a blatantly homophobic statement, with no resemblance whatsoever to dignified or reasonable self-defense.
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| Sorry, but that is my belief. I was in a locker room where one boy wouldnt stick up for himself and was repeatedly peed on by the jocks and made fun of for his genetalia, when in all actuallity, for being circumsized (sic), there really was nothing wrong with him otherwise other than his social standing. But I would HATE to have to be that kids psychologist later in life. |
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I respectfully disagree that the response you advocate is a good one, regardless of the severity of the situation. I continue to view the statement (when voiced in a negative and defensive tone) as a prejudical one, and I believe there are effective ways to defend oneself that do not involve prejudicial sentiment. I agree that it is very unfortunate that in the above scenario, no one stood up for the victim.
I do hope you don't mean to imply that the abuse was the fault of the victim, because he did not stand up for himself. It seems we agree that the responsibility for abuse always lies with the abuser. I also hope that parents of children entering institutions that intend to force them to be naked in each others' presence will take steps to prevent their children from having to enter the situation to begin with.
It is abusive to force humans to be naked together. That is all.
