Oh Boy! Would you pay this? - Page 7

[PatchyMama]

we should just lock this thread now and save everyone the stress... its friday, lets enjoy the weekend.

Hey its snowing parts of las vegas! :

[hillymum]

Originally Posted by oetien

You know, poor people always get riled up about everything that rich people do. It's normal!

WOW Well thats ignorant.

(I wish I hadn't writen that. Name calling is never attractive. O well.)

[oetien]

Originally Posted by hillymum

WOW Well thats ignorant.

[J_Van]

Ok, so it is now obvious that not everyone on this board will pay big bucks for one diaper. That point is clear as a bell.

New analogy, say this was the bfing board and I posted this thread:

title: "Oh boy! Would you do this in public?

text: This is amazing! I can not believe someone would actually nurse without a blanket in public, easy as it is! I'd never do that to myself lol."

Now, I'm not "judging" that person, right? However, I do think that those who chose to not use a blanket in public might get their feelings hurt or "panties in a bunch" over that thread.

[daekini]

me reading this thread:

: :yawning: :yawning: :yawning:

[lovebug]

it is very nice but i can hardly pay for reg CD must less 155.00 my god that is alot of money

however good for the mama who can i wish i could

[oetien]

Originally Posted by J_Van

Ok, so it is now obvious that not everyone on this board will pay big bucks for one diaper. That point is clear as a bell.

New analogy, say this was the bfing board and I posted this thread:

title: "Oh boy! Would you do this in public?

text: This is amazing! I can not believe someone would actually nurse without a blanket in public, easy as it is! I'd never do that to myself lol."

Now, I'm not "judging" that person, right? However, I do think that those who chose to not use a blanket in public might get their feelings hurt or "panties in a bunch" over that thread.

Sorry, I don't think that's quite the same thing. This is a diapering forum, not a hyena forum, right?
Anyone can afford to bf in public without a blanket. I mean, nobody would get hurt from doing it, right? So, it's just a matter of choice whether you wanna do it or not.
OTOH, this whole hyena thing. Some people don't have that choice to buy the hyena stuff. See the difference?

[greenwoman2006]

Originally Posted by Sustainer

No one is taking issue with the posts that say "I can't buy the diaper because I don't have the money." The posts that people are taking issue with are the posts that say "I'm shocked that anyone would pay that much for a diaper" or that compare it to buying an environmentally destructive SUV (which is particularly ludicrous since a cloth diaper is about the most environmentally friendly product anyone could by).

Wow. Well we know for certain now who is the fussybutt that everyone keeps talking about, don't we?


You are the only person on this thread to suggest the idea of cloth diapering being about who has the most expensive stash.

I actually did not suggest that cloth diapering is about stash.

I had to laugh out loud at the word "affluent." I am poor. Every once in a while, I pay higher than retail for a diaper. It is my one indulgence. I think most poor people have at least one indulgence. I also spend all the birthday and holiday money that people give me on diapers.

I spend birthday and holiday money on bills. But of course we could now have a contest about who is the most poor. We are not poor. We have computers. The orphans of war and violence in Africa are poor.


If I weren't holding back, I might go into the idea that certain comments are beginning to sound as if they are rooted in envy, and that bitter feelings are being projected.

Yes, you have caught me. I am so envious of the expensive dipes. Very bitter... get real.


Of course not. I never said anything like that. All I said is that you might want to consider your wording. Saying "wow that auction went high" would be one thing. But saying "I'm amazed that someone would pay that much for a diaper" can have a different effect on the person who bought it as well as on the other people who have paid that much.

It is nice that you are looking out for people that are sensitive and would take offense to that. But frankly, this thread shouldn't be so "heavy".


No one has said that people who can't afford to buy an expensive diaper should feel guilty.

I did not say that someone said that, I felt that it was implied.


No one is judging anyone for commenting that they can't afford the diaper.

And no one is judging people that can afford an expensive dipe. No one is envious. We all have our priorities and it is our own business what we do with our income. But it was hard to resist playing devil's advocate with you. I can see that I am just adding fuel to your own personal fire, and it is taking away from the fun of the thread. I believe that I can't really go much further with this discussion.

[greenwoman2006]

Originally Posted by boingo82

What is critical about being shocked at that? It is shocking, to some people.


I grabbed at a luxury SUV as an example of an object that is not affordable to everyone, and that people get all defensive about when it's questioned why they spent so much money on it. I honestly was not bringing the environmental stuff up at all...


OK, I'm poor too. I'm spending my $150 on a back door that isn't broken and doesn't leak large volumes of cold air in winter.


A lot of other comments sound as if they're taking things personally when they weren't intended that way, and as though they're rooted in insecurity, guilt, and defensiveness.




How does being "amazed" at the price of an item equate to criticism? It doesn't!@!


That "prefold" question sounded like judgment.

ITA. I did not care for the pf question at all.

[greenwoman2006]

Originally Posted by nonnymoose

Some people (okay, I mean you) are doing an awful lot of judging, though.

How's the view up there on that horse?

I would say the view is probably pretty "affluent". tee hee.

[greenwoman2006]

Originally Posted by oetien

Hhhhmmm, saying that people's comment are rooted in envy isn't judgemental?
And about the poor comment, you forgot, some people are too poor to afford that kind of indulgence.

Well put.

[Sustainer]

Originally Posted by hillymum

I wasn't shocked, I was amazed. Get it right please.

My use of the word "shock" in this sentence

Originally Posted by Sustainer

If you can't help an initial feeling of shock the first time you see a diaper sell for that price, that's fine.

was in reference to boingo82's post:

Originally Posted by boingo82

It is shocking, to some people.

My following sentence referred to you:

Originally Posted by Sustainer

But if you actually post a thread expressing your amazement at someone's diaper spending choices on the cloth diaper message board where the people who buy the diapers come to chat, you should expect some reactions.

Originally Posted by Hillymum

All this thread was supposed to be about was that I couldn't believe someone paid that much for a diaper, would you pay it, and to the diaper maker.

And all I've been saying is that there might be a better way to word that that's a little more sensitive to the people who have paid that much for a diaper. Try to imagine how someone might feel if they won an auction for that amount and then came here and saw a thread posted that said "I can not believe someone would pay this much for one diaper!" Try to pretend that you're the one who won an auction where the bidding got high, and then you went to your message board devoted to the subject of that product, and you saw that someone posted a thread saying "I can not believe someone would pay that much!" Can you see how it might be better if the post said something like "Wow, that auction went high! Congratulations to the winner! I've never seen one sell for that much before!"

[greenwoman2006]

Originally Posted by oetien

You know, poor people always get riled up about everything that rich people do. It's normal!

That is very funny!

[J_Van]

Originally Posted by oetien

Sorry, I don't think that's quite the same thing. This is a diapering forum, not a hyena forum, right?
Anyone can afford to bf in public without a blanket. I mean, nobody would get hurt from doing it, right? So, it's just a matter of choice whether you wanna do it or not.
OTOH, this whole hyena thing. Some people don't have that choice to buy the hyena stuff. See the difference?

ehhh, yeah I see the difference. hmmm ... trying to think of another but rapidly losing interest in this topic.

[boingo82]

Originally Posted by PatchyMama

we should just lock this thread now and save everyone the stress... its friday, lets enjoy the weekend.

Hey its snowing parts of las vegas! :

We're 2 hours NE of you, it is snowing here too. IT has been snowing all day!!! It is insane! It did not even FREEZE here until December...usually in March it is in the 70s-80s. NUTS I tell you. Most years we get no snow at all, today it has been snowing for 5 hours and it's sticking on roofs.

[greenwoman2006]

Originally Posted by lovebug

it is very nice but i can hardly pay for reg CD must less 155.00 my god that is alot of money

however good for the mama who can i wish i could

Be careful. You might be called judgemental or envious!
And I agree with you, it is wonderful for the WAHM that made it! She deserves it!

[ShabbyChic]

Originally Posted by oetien

You know, poor people always get riled up about everything that rich people do. It's normal!

Do they get riled up when the rich people send them things for free?

[oetien]

Originally Posted by ShabbyChic

Do they get riled up when the rich people send them things for free?

Depends what it is! *i pressed the lol button accidentaly*

[ShabbyChic]

Originally Posted by oetien

Depends what it is!

I'm not getting the laughter.

[greenwoman2006]

Originally Posted by boingo82

We're 2 hours NE of you, it is snowing here too. IT has been snowing all day!!! It is insane! It did not even FREEZE here until December...usually in March it is in the 70s-80s. NUTS I tell you. Most years we get no snow at all, today it has been snowing for 5 hours and it's sticking on roofs.

We got snow here in Western Oregon! In March! It is insane!