uh, rynna, you are complaining about being mistaken for YOUNG....
though i understand about people being condescending. i got riled about some silly rude elderly man at the library yesterday...apparently i did not appear to be "with those people" which was just my kids and husband that i take care of all the time....
take it easy on yourself rynna. think of it as modeling/unschooling good sick behaviour - staying down and being useless and giving in. show them how it is done! and all this time i've wondered why my kids fight the sicklies and won't rest and then complain about life. hmmm......
liz, the social skills take time differently with each kid. i think the real trouble is that it does make it harder for you and schooling though. i don't think reed could operate scissors until 6 (and prefers not to use them). scissors for a three boy is not the average! and then there's the three misusing the scissors everywhere.....but being able to lace beads is pretty good for this age - it is my understanding that the fine motor is linked with cognitive. the glasses are to help stabilize his eye? is the nearsightedness that bad? in a year or few it will be easier for him to understand the need for them. i wonder what they did when we were kids in this circumstance. put a patch on the eye? has your son started talking? i don't think he is old enough for that to be an issue, my opinion only of course, unless he is extremely frustrated about it.
i hope i can get across that i am not downplaying what you are talking about because i feel email and writing from a relative stranger can get weird that way sometimes. i guess since reed is seven now i can look back and realize i worried about alot of things that resolved themselves regardless of my worry and effort. and generally i am more blase about it all. i HAVE to believe that it will work out or i would have gone insane. also, i just kept wishing he would get older, and in some ways still do, or wished the icky stuff would go away because i did not feel i could completely control the situations and worried it would only get worse. the hardest part for me has just been accepting him, and my situation relating such as my dh not trusting anyone to watch our kids so i can get a break or even my dh not understanding how to help him or not having medical insurance to check on things when i feel paranoid. that sounds so terrible, that i have a hard time accepting my son especially my firstborn, but there i said it.
today i took some sinus advil and felt immensely better. i feel so stupid, that i have been avoiding something that simple of a fix when i've been behaving like a mean ol hag.
so, we need a rainbow or spell to help some of us with the gloom huh?
i've been watching howl's moving castle on dvd with the kids and loving it.
though i understand about people being condescending. i got riled about some silly rude elderly man at the library yesterday...apparently i did not appear to be "with those people" which was just my kids and husband that i take care of all the time....
take it easy on yourself rynna. think of it as modeling/unschooling good sick behaviour - staying down and being useless and giving in. show them how it is done! and all this time i've wondered why my kids fight the sicklies and won't rest and then complain about life. hmmm......
liz, the social skills take time differently with each kid. i think the real trouble is that it does make it harder for you and schooling though. i don't think reed could operate scissors until 6 (and prefers not to use them). scissors for a three boy is not the average! and then there's the three misusing the scissors everywhere.....but being able to lace beads is pretty good for this age - it is my understanding that the fine motor is linked with cognitive. the glasses are to help stabilize his eye? is the nearsightedness that bad? in a year or few it will be easier for him to understand the need for them. i wonder what they did when we were kids in this circumstance. put a patch on the eye? has your son started talking? i don't think he is old enough for that to be an issue, my opinion only of course, unless he is extremely frustrated about it.
i hope i can get across that i am not downplaying what you are talking about because i feel email and writing from a relative stranger can get weird that way sometimes. i guess since reed is seven now i can look back and realize i worried about alot of things that resolved themselves regardless of my worry and effort. and generally i am more blase about it all. i HAVE to believe that it will work out or i would have gone insane. also, i just kept wishing he would get older, and in some ways still do, or wished the icky stuff would go away because i did not feel i could completely control the situations and worried it would only get worse. the hardest part for me has just been accepting him, and my situation relating such as my dh not trusting anyone to watch our kids so i can get a break or even my dh not understanding how to help him or not having medical insurance to check on things when i feel paranoid. that sounds so terrible, that i have a hard time accepting my son especially my firstborn, but there i said it.
today i took some sinus advil and felt immensely better. i feel so stupid, that i have been avoiding something that simple of a fix when i've been behaving like a mean ol hag.
so, we need a rainbow or spell to help some of us with the gloom huh?
i've been watching howl's moving castle on dvd with the kids and loving it.
Just for the record, I had ds evaluated and 3 yr olds ARE supposed to be able to use scissors, lace beads and also draw a circle. Ds can lace beads but can't do the other two. 
I'm now doing what I hated most about my Dad growing up! 
: So I feel bad when DH gets upset with DS for yelling when I'm the one modeling it for him! I'm trying hard to speak in a quiet voice when I'm upset so that Zachary has to be quiet enough to hear me. Bad habits CAN be broken, so I have hope for us yet! I'm starting a NO YELLING project, so I'll let you know how it goes. 
So, I guess I'm doing something right, even though sometimes it feels like we haven't really done any "school work". It's really been a lot of fun getting all my books and papers and stuff together, and when I get stuff set up at the dining room table Zachary asks "Are we playing school?" 
: 
So when are kids supposed to be able to use scissors, anyway?
I might have felt guilty about it, if I could have stayed awake long enough.. but I couldn't. 
I spent the entire day in bed, with occasional snugglebugs from the kids. Mike actually got a lot of cleaning done, even though the kids were on top of him all day. 
I think that I've got the actual flu, what with the very high fever and the achiness. I feel a lot like I did when I had the flu at 14. I'm hoping that this hasn't affected the baby too negatively. 
Zachary just threw up. There should be a law against getting two stomach flus in one season. (We all got sick right after Christmas.) He picked it up from my mom's foster kids, who no doubt brought it home from public school! 
Leah!
We've got loads of red wine around the house, but in the past red wine has given me migraines and of course I spend these days doped up on vicodin so wine is out of the question. 
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