I also think that if anti-choicers were really all that concerned about baby's lives, they would spend their energy creating better conditions for mamas to keep our babies and not live in desperation and poverty. Not picketing abortion clinics with stupid signs. Wouldn't the better strategy be to create optimum conditions for women to truly decide? Anything else is just an attempt to remove women's power over our bodies and our lives, disguised as concern for fetuses.[/QUOTE]
So so well put!!! I'm gonna comment on Pro choice and then on SAHMing.
I am also more pro choice than before having DS. And when I was in school and pregnant, people would talk about being Anti choice and I'd say "And when were you pregnant? Do you know how hard it is?" At the same time, I feel that abortions should be done early on and that requires knowledge and education.
I went to a clinic when I was pregnant with DS (I was 16) and I was completely harrassed and picked apart. My mother had to shield me. And my mom, the brave "old school" (ie:SAHMing is boring/unfullfilling/ a bad example to your DDs
:, but that's beside the point) ) said 'And how many children have YOU adopted?How many diapers have you bought and donated? How many pregnant girls and womyn have you taken in to your home?" The answer? NONE. this woman said "None, but I've dedicated 15 years of my life to being here (the clinic) everyday, showing confused young girls the way!" FIFTEEN YEARS!!!
Anywho, although I work (I'm a doula and midwife to be) I am mainly a SAHM. And I feel that me doing what I love and what I believe, it what makes me such a strong womyn. I feel mor ein touch with myself and my femminist self than ever.
I think having a son has also really raised my awareness to how we raise our boys, as mothers and fathers too. I think raising a strong daughter is so so important, but many men don't feel comfortable with a strong womyn around. I am femminist for myself,for other womyn, for my son, for my future daughters and sons, for my grandchildren. But I am a feminist on my terms.
I think any womyn who makes a choice, for herself, be it be a mama and work out of the home, a mama SAH, or not being a mama at all...then damnit she's a femminist. I think as womyn, when we do things on our terms, we're standing up for ourselves and for other womyn all over.
And when we are not catty with one another, not judgemental of other mama's and womyn's choices and stand up as sisters, together, that is femminism.
And when we educate not only our DDs, but our DSs about womyn's issues, abotu equality, we're being femminists.
When we breastfeed in public, that's femminism.
When we voulenteer for womyn,children and men too, that's femminism.
Femminism, to me has nothing to do with where you work, hwo much you make or anything like that. It's abou being a strong womyn and being the best you can be at what you do and who you are. And knowing that if you want to go to school and be a doctoy, you can be. Or if you want to be a SAHM and watch Opera and eat bon bons all day (
) then we can.
ETA: Sometimes I feel like as young mama, I have to quickly add that I am doing things besides
being a mama. I'm starting to not feel so self concious and to realize that I don't need to prove myself b/c I'm 18. I think b/c I was raised by a mother who felt she was doing the best for her daughters by working all the time (and that was it!) I feel looked down upon being a SAHM. It's rough, but I am fidning my own and doing what is best for my DS,my DP and myself!!