Originally Posted by Galatea
I think they are missing the special nerves that tell them how close they are to coming. And maybe the men who take too long have too few nerves left at all to get enough stimulation.
I think the difference in sexual response is b/c each penis is different and each circumcision is different so we can see a whole range of different effects.
I have heard from multiple women who have been with intact DH's that they have a tremendous amount of control with regards to orgasm...they can orgasm quicker, or delay it....the women experience a lot of simultaneous orgasm.
On a weird side note, I found out when I talked to my mom about my decision to not circ, I found out that my father was intact. Anyhow, she had told me her only bc method had been "pull and pray", etc. Apparently my father had a LOT of control
. More information that I wanted to know, but it makes sense in a way.
I get so much out of sex here as an intact woman...like the others said, the nuances...DH needs a lot of rough stimulation to go. That is so sad for me....he can be tender and concentrate, or I can just take charge and do things with my own power to get the stimulation that I like, but he will never orgasm from the deep, slower and tender stimulation. Like many of you have said, the nuances...and there are so many. I try to imagine what it would be like if they weren't there, and it would be so sad
My friends who have been with intact men tell me about the noises they make and that they are just in ecstacy in comparison. I think how unfair it was that nobody in this country stood up to protect DH and the other men out there so that they could enjoy the full pleasure that their bodies were meant to have. And, how silently the women have suffered through rough sex, and thinking that there was something wrong with them that their DH's weren't in tune with them sexually.
It is painful for me to think of what we lost, but more painful to think of what he individually has lost. And, it is difficult to imagine what he is going through when he thinks of it.
Might it be that in this case, for the circ'd man, ignorance is bliss? But then again, if he does restore, which we are currently embarking on (very slowly for him...it is such an emotional endeavor) I think he will be more of an intactavist than I can imagine.
I wish I could have stood up for DH and told his parents to leave him alone.