Originally Posted by DebraBaker
For the younger sibling, it is the "buddy," not one of the parents who bathes them and feeds them, and makes sure their teeth are brushed and night prayers are said. If Michelle does anything it is the exception. If the "Buddy" wants to go out (and I seriously doubt they get to go out,) *they* find a babysitter, perhaps they ask Michelle if she can babysit the little buddy, but, again, I seriously doubt they can even get an occasional break to go out on the town the way a real actual *parent* gets a night out with the girls, or boys, or date night with spouse.
This is problematic in my mind.
A far stretch from helping out.
Of course it may help these older children decide to wait to have children of their own since they'll know what they would be getting into... Hopefully they wouldn't decide to have children and give them to others to raise though.
I helped out a lot with my younger siblings (they are 5, 9.5, and 11.5 years younger than I am) so I knew what I was getting into when I had dd at a youngish age. My parents were still the parents though. I did do a lot of the cleaning, but I now know how to keep a cleaner house than my mom did.
I guess what I'm getting around to is that there's a fine line between enough and too much helping out with the house and younger siblings. The only people who know which side of the line the Duggars are on are the Duggars and people who know them IRL.
Then again, I haven't even seen the show
But we all know how "realistic" reality TV is
love and peace.