Originally Posted by ValarieR
I read most of this thread... and wow... there were so many thing to which I wanted to reply, but I had to read to see if it was mentioned later... I want my life back! D*%$ you for making this funny, inflamatory thread!!!!!!
Okay- point by point:
*The kids seem healthy and clean, and I believe they will all become fairly well adjusted people. lets face it- we will all screw up our kids in some way... if not with sposies or ffing, then with something else....
*I don't think we should be so crappy towards them on this board. Just like we expect not to be ridiculed for not circing, for bfing five yr olds, for our religion, for who we like to have sex with, for our sex or our gender... they should be able to expect the same respect.
*Perhaps some of their methods are not our style, but you have to marvel at a family that runs so smoothly!
*The older kids don't raise the younger ones. They help them dress in the morning and before bed, and they help with hsing- and we all know, one of the best ways to learn is to teach another. That is mutually benfitial and fabulous!
Okay... I couldn't refrain from sharing my pov after spending so much time catching up...
p.s.- DH and I have 19 names picked out... we don't know how many will go to bio kids or adopted kids... but we're open to having as many as come
First Welcome to MDC.
Now on the bold, if you are bathing, feeding, educating, playing and then putting a child to bed every single day, that's parenting a child, just because they are healthy and clean does not mean that their family meets all their needs, mental needs are just as important, treating each child as an individual is key to AP, and I can't see how that is done within their family, they have no choice in what colour they are going to wear, can any of these kids truly express themselves?
As a mother I expect my older child to help out, BUT never at the level that they expect from their kids, that's excessive in my books.
Infact even when I spent summers with my cousin who has a large family, none of the older kids had anything near the level of expectations of the Duggar's older kids.
Lastly if I throw myself for financial gain on tv, more than once, esp if I am running as a one issue politician, I expect that not everyone will be kind towards me and mine, however until I go sell myself to Discovery channel, I am free from public ridicule, but one of these days when they decide to do a show on the path thru secondary infertility and the liberal, I'm sure I'll except the world view the same way the Duggars think of mine, laughing all the way to the bank.