I think the defference is in WANTING to help a younger sibling and being told. here's your baby, I mean buddy while I go off with daddy to make a new bundle of squalling.
Like one of the shows when the baby was in the car seat on the stairs and one of the smaller boys grabbed it and it almost toppled and one of the older ones helped him, later that same child was struggling to carry the younger sibling in a back carry :
Seems he was the younger child's buddy : but he was in my view too young to be the older buddy, hell he needed a buddy himself.
|I still don't understand why older kids taking on some responcibility for younger kids is bad- I'm not trying to irritate, I just don't get it!|
I want the older child to have and enjoy their childhood, without feeling like they are responsible for another, it's just too much to me to ask a child.