I love coming here everyday, and I've been learning a lot, but it seems to me that anyone who disagrees with popular opinion is either fussed at or ridiculed...
I've read all about the evils of Ezzo, but I think allowing children to live without rules or consequences is just as bad for them. I've tried to ask about the grey areas, but apparently, no one is allowed to favor a more moderate parenting style : without having their heads bitten off.
Even though I have opinions to share, and questions to ask, I think I'm just going to let this thread die... sorry if my opinions irritated you, but I sort of thought that was the whole point of us all coming together.
I told you to read up because you asked what blanket training was, you were asking how we knew spanking was involved, basic reading up on Ezzo give you all that and so much more, and therefore you could more effectively argue your support of the Duggars methods, knowing full well who they follow.
Neither have I or any other said that we don't give our children rules or set boundaries, you seem to think that we are and NONE of us have, because we aren't saying 10 mins on the blanket, it does not mean that we don't set rules for daily living, the truth is that when you become a parent, all these notions of the perfect child and how you will raise said child(ren) come to a halt, you have to learn and respect that each child is different, (in my book not doing is wrong you aren't respecting your child's needs, see one of my issues withe the Duggars) my ds is a joy to be around is always praised for how well behaved he is , you can bet he has rules but my rules may not work in your home, the same way the rules from when he was 5 no longer are acceptable for us now, and chances are those won't be the absolute same list that my dd will come up with.
You are asking us to give you a blue print, and it does not work like that, it's not a grey area, it's life and in living and growing, you find what you need to work out those areas that are not so clear, like how do I get this child to keep on clothes when it's 20 degrees outside.
You find what you need to direct your children by what they respond to.
And I must add I am moderate as it comes to MDC
I'm an ex spanker and fairly strict in some areas, def not the avg GD parent