why shouldn't I tell my child not to cry? - Page 3

[faithnj]

Oh wellll.....First thing this morning my DD was crying/whining for me to get out of bed because she wanted milk. Before I could think about it, I said "Please don't cry." Then you guys popped into my mind! LOL! But you know what? She actually did stop crying-- which amazed me. Who would have expected that??? All the same, I don't want to invalidate her feelings, but.....I think every mama makes mistakes sometimes.

[BlueStateMama]

When toddlers cry, it's usually because their emotions are so intense that they don't know what else to do. It's hard to be supportive and calm when the crying seems to be non stop, but I try to remind myself that simply saying "stop crying!", can be heard by dd as "stop feeling!".

Wise words, wise words...

[Think of Winter]

Originally Posted by BohoMama

my comments were directed towards Colleen95,

Thank you for pointing this out. I'd missed it the first time, and I really appreciate this new perspective. I've been so frustrated trying to accomodate ds's constant demands.