Ozhenya, I think we all want community, crave community, benefit from community - community that supports and nourishes our values. It's just that when we want something/anything so badly, we mere mortals can sometimes become somewhat tunnel-visioned, even when our children are clearly having a difficult time in the particular community we've chosen, and don't belong there.
I just think we have to be stay very conscious about our motivations whenever our children are involved and are the link to whatever community it is that we want to be part of. They're the ones who have to live the daily reality of it.
Our objectivity can get all muddled in any kind of school community - I've also seen it in a very different kind of private school - not Waldorf - that had absolutely wonderful events where the children performed in delightful programs, and then the families all enjoyed potlucks, with their instruments coming out for lovely spontaneous sing-alongs of favorite songs while the children played - everyone basking in the camaraderie and warmth of the feeling that they were part of something very special and were providing their children with a wonderful school experience. But there were some very serious problems and dysfunction inside the classrooms for a number of the children - and parents didn't want to know about it, or in some cases knew about it but didn't want to deal with it because of their fear of the dreaded public school as an impossible alternative. It wasn't until I'd left the school that I happened upon parents who told me their children had been very unhappy there - but were doing fine in public school. And Waldorf communities offer even more attractive events - some of the most beautiful and amazing events I've ever experienced - so belonging to those communities can carry even more weight when sorting out our priorities.
I'm sorry if I took your post wrong - I might very well have read a tone of voice into it that wasn't there.
- Lillian
I just think we have to be stay very conscious about our motivations whenever our children are involved and are the link to whatever community it is that we want to be part of. They're the ones who have to live the daily reality of it.
Our objectivity can get all muddled in any kind of school community - I've also seen it in a very different kind of private school - not Waldorf - that had absolutely wonderful events where the children performed in delightful programs, and then the families all enjoyed potlucks, with their instruments coming out for lovely spontaneous sing-alongs of favorite songs while the children played - everyone basking in the camaraderie and warmth of the feeling that they were part of something very special and were providing their children with a wonderful school experience. But there were some very serious problems and dysfunction inside the classrooms for a number of the children - and parents didn't want to know about it, or in some cases knew about it but didn't want to deal with it because of their fear of the dreaded public school as an impossible alternative. It wasn't until I'd left the school that I happened upon parents who told me their children had been very unhappy there - but were doing fine in public school. And Waldorf communities offer even more attractive events - some of the most beautiful and amazing events I've ever experienced - so belonging to those communities can carry even more weight when sorting out our priorities.
I'm sorry if I took your post wrong - I might very well have read a tone of voice into it that wasn't there.
- Lillian









An off-topic aside...Since she moved to the US, this friend has often been complemented by strangers on how well she speaks English!!! 
, so it's a blessing they have only *very* limited authority to tell private schools how they're supposed to do it.
There are individual critics, sure - as with anything - but no website dedicated to how horrid it all is and how nobody should send their child there. If you have a website that's dedicated to destroying any of these pedagogies, I'd love to see it.
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