Arwyn, can you join? Aren't you a member of the club???
If you follow this thread and the one before it, there were LOTS of good ideas for helping to turn things around before they got tough. I can think of a few off-hand, and maybe some of the others will throw aout a few.
Time for yourself, as mightymoo mentioned about showering, is a biggie. A favorite ritual, a cup of coffee, or tea, a snack or a long walk. Lots of exercise, again, walking, cause you can do it with the kids.
Sorry, but I can't remember how many kdis you have. Can you go to the gym, a museum, a coffee shop? Or are you more at the blowing bubbles at hte park, and flying kites stage?Visit the library and get a big pile of books and videos. Dance, do a video work out, move.
If you're new ot the area, how about exploring? Ask everyone what neat thigns there are to do and see. Talke long drives.
Sing. Loudly. Esp in the car where no one can see you.
And start looking for a new massage place, a new accupuncturist. Make it an adventure! What new thing can you discover to day?
I hope you feel better soon!