HELP 12 year old thinks she's one of the adults...bedtimes! - Page 2

[Chicky2]

Oh, goodness, no, lol! I don't value one over the other. That is just her preference. She is a very goal-oriented individual. She has dreams of becoming a research professor at an Ivy League University oneday. She knows that if she doesn't keep her mind on her studies that dream will never come true. She does plenty of socializing at school, but would much rather spend her lunches talking w/her teachers because they can engage her in a stimulating conversation. She has friends, but none that share her interests outside of school. She did have a boyfriend once who had similar interests but broke it off w/him when he tried to push her too far, iykwim. She knows that she is more likely to find those kind of friends in college. In her spare time, she likes to volunteer at the local charity thrift store, take walks in our woods identifying all the wonderful varieties of trees and wildflowers, and read, read, read. She is highly interested in anything math and science related and finds the interests of her acquaintances boring and, well, boring, lol. I've never met anyone like her! She loves to study physics and calculus(she started learning calculus over the summer just because she wanted to), and no one else she knows is into that quite like she is. She recently attended her junior prom, and chose to be her unique self by wearing a beautiful kimono, and she made the Obi and undercollar herself. Honestly, I was soooo different at that age, and yes, I'm happy that these are her preferences, rather than having sex and drinking like I did. I'm sure that my other children will also be unique in their own ways, but surely not quite like her. She is actually my stepdd and her biomother wanted her to be worried about boys and sex at the ripe ole age of 13. My dd thought that was ridiculous! And so did her dad and I! She no longer has a relationship w/her biomom (her choice), and she feels very lucky that she lives w/us so that she is free to pursue her interests, instead of being teased and put down for them.

[UnschoolnMa]

Originally Posted by mamajama

Totally off topic..
it's so nice to see you unschooln!

Thanks MamaJama and ErikaDP. Good to be seen.

[Ruthla]

My 11yo doesn't have a "bedtime" either- but my 9yo (almost 10) does because she has trouble getting up in the mornings. My oldest is simply one of those people who needs less sleep than average- she needs less sleep than I do!! I imagine that my younger DD is going to need a set bedtime throughout her teenaged years, because of her sleep needs and difficulty with self-regulating (ie, she'll stay up too late and be overtired and unable to fall asleep.)

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I go to bed before my daughter.

We are having a problem with her getting up on time in the morning. I have enforced a "no internet or phone" cerfew. (9:30)

In the summer, I won't worry about how late she is on the phone, as long as our phone isn't ringing late at night. MY husband gets up very early in the morning.

But, since she has been getting up late, she MUST go to bed by 10:30 til the end of the school year. I have also noticed that her health has been suffering in the last few months. I am more worried about her overall health...so I am encouraging her to get more sleep...I want her to WANT to feel good...sleep is so important for feelng good during the day.