School experienceHi everyone. My decision to homeschool my daughter was made because of observing HER school situation (she's in first grade, and we'll start homeschooling after this academic year is over). But when I started reading about homeschooling and considering it, I couldn't help but think about my own experience and how different things might have been for me if it weren't for my bad school experiences.
I went to elite private schools until 8th grade when I was kicked out for misbehaving. Then I went to public school for a few months. Then I was sent to a Fundamental Baptist (shudder) boarding school for high school.
I don't want to write too much, because I don't want to bore you all, so I'll try to sum up each experience quickly. Private school: Too much pressure to excel, too much competition, expectations or perfection, no room for mistakes. (I was adopted at 8 after my mother was killed, and had emotional problems that were never addressed, but were exhibited in school. The school would not tolerate this.) Public school: Fear, boredom, waste of time. Fundamental Baptist boarding school: Extremely traumatizing, too much to sum up quickly. If anyone wants to know, send me a private message.
Anyway, I started noticing that when my daughter "plays school," she often yells at her dolls and talks to them in a really humiliating and patronizing way. We talk to our daughter as an equal, so I was shocked. I also noticed that the things she focused on were lining them up and scolding them. I go and eat lunch with my daughter and two nieces at least once a week. The first time I went, the cafeteria monster cam up and told me that I could not have my nieces sit with me, because it would get "out of hand." She made my nieces get up from the table and go sit somewhere else. They were totally confused as to who they should listen to. I complained to the pricipal and the matter was resolved, but I still have a distaste for the whole situation. I think that rules should make sense. They shouldn't be made because something MIGHT get out of hand. That's just stupid.
I also didn't like the things my daughter would get in trouble for: fidgeting, playing with things in her desk, talking to her friends, not listening, etc. I think a 5,6,7, etc. year old should be doing all of those things. I don't see why she should be criticized for normal behavior that she can't help.
I don't like that a first grader has two hours of homework. I don't like that a first grader has to run laps for P.E. I don't like that she has to run extra laps if her MOTHER forgets to send her to school with P.E. shoes. I don't like that kids get awards for being on time to school, something totally out of their control.
Most of all, I don't like that my daughter is slowly starting to hate anything associated with learning.
Well, so much for making that short! I could say so much more!