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post #21 of 78
double posted.....
post #22 of 78
Bigger babies ARE easier to birth... just wanted to point it out incase it wasn't obvious to everyone... when you're pushing there's typically a 2 steps forward, one step back pattern. The bigger the baby is, the less he/she slips back.

I know this dainty woman who was barely 5 feet tall. Both of her boys were born naturally and they were both over 11 pounds. After hearing that I was never worried about having a big baby. If she can do it with her tiny body, then my 5'7" 145 pound body can surly handle it!

I'm sooo worried this baby will be small (i.e., under 8 pounds). I was 8.4 when I was born, but dh was only 7 something, and so were both of his brothers. Like I said before, Juels was 9.4, but she has a different biological father. Also, dh is half asian, so I'm scared I'll have this puny asian baby, and I want a buddah!

Buddah Buddah Buddah!!!!!
post #23 of 78
Babies grow to the perfect size for their Mamas pelvis! I birthed my 10 lb 1 0z boy without a problem. Maybe you should print out some of our stories and give them to your client for encouragement. You can't guess a baby's weight by looking at the Mum anyway, we all carry differently! It saddens me this misinformation and instilling fear is happening, especially to 1st time Mums.
post #24 of 78
I'm 4'10" and pushed out a 10 lb. 2 oz. baby in 15 minutes. Fat is squishy and does not make it hard to push them out.
post #25 of 78
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Originally Posted by doula and mom
"....not to mention the mw is just guessing based on LOOKING at my client. It's not even from a stupid u/s.
Gah! And by those reasons of deduction (snark) she would have me cut open because I AM SO BIG I'M OBVIOUSLY HAVING TWINS. There is a woman on my DDC board who is having triplets and I swear we're the same size.

I hope your friend isn't too worried. My last MW told me that women are always better at predicting the size of their babies than any OB, MW or u/s. In my case, she was right. The OB (that I left) said 8 lbs when I was 36 weeks, but I said 7.5 lbs, and she was 7lbs 7oz. And she was actually shorter than I expected (19 in vs 20 in).

But in the end it so doesn't matter...
post #26 of 78
Ya know, I always thought my 6lb 2oz and 7lb 7oz babies were SMALL. I mean, most of my friends have 8lb babies and one friend had a 9lb ?oz baby (horrific episiotomy turned 4th degree tear), a 10lb 9oz posterior baby (no tears! ) and then a 7lb 11oz baby (again, no tears) just fine.

It's sad that even many doctors and some midwives don't have faith in our bodies anymore.

I truly believe I could birth a big baby no problem, but since my mom's only 8lber was a 43 weeker and my MIL only had 6-7lb babies I don't really expect to grow a big'un.
post #27 of 78
Ugh. What gets me living here is the little Thai women married to big foreign men and having C-sections because the baby is going to be too big... like 9lb instead 7. Huh? People think mixed races causes a problem like that? A couple like that just had a baby on Saturday and the baby was 8lb12oz born by C/S because breech (well they say breech but I know she really wanted a C/S). They say to me, wow isn't that big??? Good thing we had a C/S. Well, to me, it looked like that weight was in the baby's feet because he was a good 22in. long.

And I totally agree that bigger babies are easier to push out.
post #28 of 78
Puhleeze! My friend gave birth to a near 11 pounder vaginally. No problems. Well, she did make the joke that sex for a while was like throwing a hot dog down a hallway......
post #29 of 78
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Well, she did make the joke that sex for a while was like throwing a hot dog down a hallway......
Ha. I spose that's better than putting a knife in a jar of mayonaise...
post #30 of 78
How does the midwife know? Does she have a crystal ball? Would she please look into it and tell me whether I'll be rich?
post #31 of 78
I *just* had this argument with my neighbor! Her OB- a very, very interventionist OB- told her that she will probably have to be induced before her due date because they baby is already very large. She's only 27 weeks! And the idiot that she is, she believes it. She says the women in her family can't deliver large babies and that they all have CPD. By the way, her two sons were delivered vaginally with no problems and they were around 7lbs.
When I told her that I thought it was so insane for her doc to say those things that if he were MY doc, I'd fire him, she said, "You can't fire a doctor." She's already talking of scheduling an induction at 37 weeks to "avoid" a c-section.

UUUGGGHHHHHH!

My own babies were on the big side. My first two were well over 9lbs and I was old for SURE that #2 was small, no more than 7lbs. Then my last one was 8lbs even and everyone was expecting him to be closer to 10lbs.

It really burns me up when I hear this crap. ANy excuse to intervene...ANY!
post #32 of 78
I *just* had this argument with my neighbor! Her OB- a very, very interventionist OB- told her that she will probably have to be induced before her due date because they baby is already very large. She's only 27 weeks! And the idiot that she is, she believes it. She says the women in her family can't deliver large babies and that they all have CPD. By the way, her two sons were delivered vaginally with no problems and they were around 7lbs.
When I told her that I thought it was so insane for her doc to say those things that if he were MY doc, I'd fire him, she said, "You can't fire a doctor." She's already talking of scheduling an induction at 37 weeks to "avoid" a c-section.

UUUGGGHHHHHH!

My own babies were on the big side. My first two were well over 9lbs and I was old for SURE that #2 was small, no more than 7lbs. Then my last one was 8lbs even and everyone was expecting him to be closer to 10lbs.

It really burns me up when I hear this crap. ANy excuse to intervene...ANY!
post #33 of 78
I don't remember what month it was, probably 7 or 8, I asked my mw how big she thought my son would be. She asked how big I was (7lbs) and my dh (8lbs 8oz) and after looking at my gigantic belly she said around 8 pounds.

Well, five days past my due date I gave birth to Charlie, all 10lbs 11oz of him and pushed for 45 mintues. The mw said his head size was in the 75th percentile so his head was big but not huge.

I knew he would be bigger than 8 pounds. I thought he'd be around 10 but I didn't want anyone to say anything for two reasons. First, I didn't want them to try and scare me with his size. Second, I didn't want to scare myself thinking he would be too big. I just trusted what my body was doing and knew it would be okay.

Best wishes to your client.
post #34 of 78
You know what really amazes me? Women have been giving vaginal birth to their babies forever. Our great grandmothers didn't have the option of inducing or having a c-section and somehow all of us are sitting here today. Westerners are big weenies, IMO. We should all aspire to do it the natural way and save the medical interventions for medical emergencies.

Kristi
post #35 of 78
I love making people's eyes pop. Ds 2 was 9lb 15 oz. Even better, he was 42 weeks and a few days. And 4 hours labor, 15 min pushing. I say he was easier to birth than my first one who didn't even hit 7 lb. People think I'm nuts.
post #36 of 78
Another 9 lb 8oz here ... 3 pushes
post #37 of 78
I'll vote on the side of "smaller doesn't mean easier to birth." My son was born at 37 weeks and was 6lb14oz. Labor wasn't too hard but pushing took 4 hours. It didn't hurt but it was hard work and got pretty exhausting. There's this idea that a smaller baby will just slip right out, but that was not my experience! Next time I will know to move around more and not end up just lying on my back in bed. I am not at all worried about having a "big" baby next time around. I truly hope I go a full 40 weeks and birth a more mature baby as DS had quite a few issues those first few weeks (jaundice, nursing problems) due to being on the early side.
post #38 of 78
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Originally Posted by mirlee
Puhleeze! My friend gave birth to a near 11 pounder vaginally. No problems. Well, she did make the joke that sex for a while was like throwing a hot dog down a hallway......
thats awesome.....



i had a 7, 11 baby and a 8, 9 baby.

My second baby, the 8, 9 was easier, but i figured it was bc of her being my second. No problems, and I was actually surprised how big she was bc I couldnt tell having her.
post #39 of 78
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Originally Posted by grace's voice
Yeah, I rage over this too. My first baby was 9 pounds 4 ounces, she was born at home after only 3 hours of labor. No problem. I'm TRYING (via proper nutrition) to grow this baby even bigger than my last one, just to see if I can beat my record People think I'm crazy, but if wanting a big healthy baby makes me crazy, then I'm darn proud of it!
haha me too! my first was 9lbs 10oz i'm hoping ds#2 will be over 10lbs. I've already been told that he'll be *only about 7-7.5lbs* but I was assured that ds#1 would possibly get to 8lbs but it would be a stretch.
post #40 of 78
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Originally Posted by vespertine
You can't guess a baby's weight by looking at the Mum anyway, we all carry differently!
I agree with this 100% I was told many times I would be lucky if my son was 7lbs cuz I carried so tiny. It was nice tho after he was born I didn't have any belly within 3 days! it was all skin tho which was ick but oh well LoL lost 30lbs in the hospital
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