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help me think of an awsome present for 18yo stepdd

post #1 of 6
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So my step dd just turned 18 and we're going to celebrate with her in a couple of weeks. Every year we get her a birthday present and it always feels inadequate. There's a difference between the kind of thing you buy for your kid (more personalized, something they're just dying for...) and something you buy for anyone else. Our presents feel like a 'for anyone else' present and not like a 'for my child' present to me.

The thing is we don't really *know* her. We see her every couple of months or so, but about 6 years ago (when dh and I moved in) dh's ex got jealous and handled it by withdrawing his right to see his dd. We went from seeing her almost weekly to seeing her only 1-2 times a year and never really having the chance to talk to her even then from the time she was 12 until she was 16. Then she became more independant and we've seen her more often and even talk to her on the phone like once a month, but we still don't know her all that well.

She's a senior in high school and will be going to college in the fall (she chose a school that's closer to us so that we can see her more ). She's really into performing arts - singing, dancing, playing instruments, drama... We can't ask her mom for help because she isn't much of a help.

I REALLY want to give her something special. something that she'll really like. Any ideas?
post #2 of 6
How exciting that she will be nearer. I don't have a great specific idea, but you might try checking out www.wallwords.com for something special and unique to her that would be good for a dorm room. Good luck
post #3 of 6
Look in your local yellow pages and see if you can find a place where you can get her acting lessons. A friend of mine bought my dd a package one year. DD loved it at the time (she hates acting now, weird) maybe she would enjoy that too.
post #4 of 6
Take her to play/dance performance of her choosing (but tell her how far/long you can afford to travel) and dress it up, take her out to a drink before and dinner after. Make her feel like a classy adult.
post #5 of 6
That last suggestion is a good one, I think.

I have older stepkids and some good gifts they enjoyed were: camera, money for school, shopping spree for clothes, top quality backpack for school (the ones that are best for your back), gift of travel.
post #6 of 6
That last suggestion is a good one, I think.

I have older stepkids and some good gifts they enjoyed were: camera, money for school, shopping spree for clothes, top quality backpack for school (the ones that are best for your back), gift of travel.
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