|Originally posted by Starfire
the only thing i would stress about not Breast Feeding, is if the mom is a drinker. No one can say how much is passed through the breast milk. But no amount is good for an infant. And then she should FF.
This is actually not true. If you read Dr. Jack Newman's book The Ultimate Breastfeeding Book of Answers, he dispels a lot of myths about "reasons" to stop breastfeeding, and shows that the benefits of breastfeeding outweigh the harms for moderate drinking, even moderate to heavy drinking. The baby is more at risk from the mother if she's drunk because of her mental and physical impairment than from the alcohol in her breastmilk.
But I agree with Starfire and with Tabitha that refusing to breastfeed is tantamount to neglect. We'd all agree that not using carseats is neglectful, and that it improperly puts the baby at a much greater risk of harm, and that parents who have access to carseats but refuse to use them are acting wrongly.
Yet refusing to breastfeed (when the mother is capable, I'm not slamming those who can't for physical reasons or deep-seated emotional reasons like childhood sexual abuse) demonstrably puts the child at greater risk for serious illnesses, both in childhood and adulthood, that can kill you. Diabetes, cancer, SIDS, RSV, obesity, certain types of heart disease, the list goes on and on. 4 to 7 children out of 1000 will die *because* they weren't breastfed.
Why is it OK to guilt parents out - even punish them by law - for failure to use a carseat, but not for refusing to breastfeed? I agree that you can't force anyone to breastfeed if they're unwilling, but I still think it's morally wrong to refuse to breastfeed.
Richie's Mama, I think it's great that you made such an effort to help your friend.
Sounds like she's just close-minded.
Those poor babies!