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post #41 of 47
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Originally Posted by morning glory
Actually...I think thats great advice. Most men really don't change that many diapers...so what does he want? The satisfaction of knowing it was done? And ask him how he feels about the pain aspect...I'm sure he is thinking "I don't remember the pain from when I was circ'd"...but is that really any excuse to put your son through it? Does "not remembering" make it okay?

Casey
EXACTLY! You could teach a child about the dangers of a hot iron by putting their hand into it and say the same thing. The child doesn't remember it, but it doesn't make it right. Know what I mean?
post #42 of 47
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Originally Posted by morning glory
You mean like my ear is "lightly attached" to my head???

Just reading back through and saw this. I can't even believe a parent would read this and think "yeah, that sounds right"

Casey
Well, to the person peeling an orange, it seems like it's lightly attached, not much effort to break the bond, but I'll bet to the orange it's pretty firm!
post #43 of 47
My Dh was dead set on getting a circumcision. I would ask why, and he would say some lame reason or another, and I would tell him the facts. It got pretty intense, me telling him that I would tell the doctor if a circ was performed that I'd file battery charges and a lawsuit. My husband would get so angry, and tell me he felt like he had no part in anything.

Finally, I decided to let him decide, it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I just said, I know that you will make the best decision for our child. I never brought it up again. But he did, everyday he would come home from work with stories. He was now asking people if they thought we should circ LOL then when they ALL said, yes, you should get it done, he would ask why, and then when they gave them him a bunch of lame reasons, he was using the facts that I told him! Also, we "inspected" his penis and found a few scars he never even noticed, so maybe that;'s worth a try?

Well, our DS was born, and the doc came in and asked if we were having one, and my DH said, yes but not until after his 2 week visit. So, we got to the two week visit, did the whole weight, check the baby out etc. and then the doc was like "well I'll go getready to perform the circumcision" and my DH decided at that moment, no, that won't be necessary, we're not going to do that to our son. I was sooo overjoyed. That obviously wont work for everyone, but it did wonders for my husband knowing all the responsibilty fell on him, and that he was in control.

It was so funny when we were at his moms (who's given me all sorts of terrible advice on childrearing, criticissizes me, feed my child animal products when she knows we're trying to be vegab...) I was changing Sabiens diaper, and she saw and made a face like she was disgusted and surprise, and she said to my DH, oh! you didn't circumsize him?!?! And he was like NO! Why would we do that? It's sexual mutilation. And she wasw all like well, I didn't think I was sexually mutilating you when you got it done. And he said, yeah well.....you were!

So, there's my lengthy postfor the day!
post #44 of 47
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post #45 of 47
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Update: He was willing last night to read the information I have ready for him. Small victory here.
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Good Luck!!!
post #46 of 47
Amazing story about your hubby's conversion, Brie, thanks very much for sharing that and give him a big hug (or something naughtier) for me tonight.
Baybee
post #47 of 47
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Originally Posted by baybee
Amazing story about your hubby's conversion, Brie, thanks very much for sharing that and give him a big hug (or something naughtier) for me tonight.
Baybee
LOL, will do
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