Originally Posted by IAMINSANE
What do you do then? Just let kids get away with unacceptable behavior? I am at a loss I put my son in the corner and tell him to think about it. If he has hit or been loud and woke up his sister or just completely ignored what I have asked him to do.
If your son has ignored what you asked him to do, then perhaps you haven't asked in a way that makes him want to listen. Are you really asking him or are you telling him? There is a big difference between saying, "Johnny, go pick up your toys!" and saying, "Johnny, would you like to pick your toys up right now or do you want me to help you pick them up when you're done putting that puzzle together?" If you're doing the first, then you aren't asking him - you're issuing commands. No one likes to be ordered around and no one responds well to it, either. Give options. Let him decide when and how he wants to do something or if he needs your help doing it. If you ask him to do something and he doesn't do it, so you send him to the corner, he STILL won't be doing what you wanted, because he's sitting in the corner. Furthermore, rather than learning anything useful, he'll be spending his time thinking about how angry he is at you for sending him to the corner. If, instead of issuing orders and then punishing him for not following them, you get down on his level and give him some choices, he might actually learn a little about cooperating and negotiating, which are much more valuable life skills than following orders.
I hope you stick around and read a lot in this forum. If you have specific discipline questions, ask them. Each problem has a different list of possible solutions, but sending a child away to "think about it" all on his own, generally doesn't work. It makes him feel angry and unloved, which isn't the message you want your child to get.