Originally Posted by pease
Maybe I outta forget this whole VBAC idea...
Oh no! That wasn't my intention!
Think of it this way, with vag birth, even if you do get a bad burn it only last for a few seconds... with c/s its a long painful recovery.
Man, if water "puts out" the burn I'd hate to see what it would have felt like if I'd have been on dry land! This was a water birth I'm referring to. Though I am gathering some ideas here as to what could have made it worse.
1) dd descended really fast and the last few pushes were violent ones, my body took over and there was no "easing her out" I learned the true meaning of "bearing down." I also screamed like I'd never screamed before with the last 2 pushes.
2) I wasn't in the best position, hence, the small tear. I was between being on all fours and squatting, with my arms clung around my exs neck. I kept drowning him.
3) My fear of pushing, I'm sure my muscles down there were all tensed up trying to keep the baby in.
4) No one directed me at all on how to push. My doula told me afterward that she thought I wouldn't have torn if my mw had helped me with proper positioning. My mw this time said that I don't have to push if I don't want to and they will help me with blowing so that the baby can come more slowly, giving my body more time to accomodate the stretch.
This was really my only complaint about labor though. I mean, the contractions HURT and transision sucked. But really, I could have labored longer, it was just the pushing that was hard. Amazing how were all so different!