Baby blues

[nubianamy]

I'm very glad I knew it was normal to get a little down around the 4th day postpartum. My baby blues hit right on schedule. I still cry at the drop of a hat... happy, sad, angry, worried -- no matter, I've got tears!

How's everyone else doing?

[willow659]

I felt the same way in the beginning, but getting back to normal. Congratulations on your new baby

[RedOakMomma]

Yup... I was a crying mess for about a week after Noah was born. Most of the time I was happy, but little things overwhelmed me--especially physical pains like the chills and hot flashes I was having. I'd be holding Noah, shivering like crazy, and it would make me so SAD!

Once my hormones got back to normal, things were fine.

Let people know if it doesn't improve.

[Tine]

For me, the blues hit on day 6. Both kiddos were having a cranky morning, and I was at the height of nipple pain and engorgement, and DH was on his way out the door for (yet another never-ending grad school) class. I said something REALLY mean to him :, burst into tears, and that scene pretty much replayed itself all day long. Urgh.

It's been better since then. And overall, it's been better this time around than it was with DS. I think it's because having #2 isn't as much of a shock to the system as having #1 was.

Hang in there, mamas. It's all normal, we're not crazy, and it won't last forever!

[Birth Junky]

My blues hit right at 2 weeks post-partum, but they are very situational--although I have had a few moments of being overwhelmed by the amount of stuff to be done as a SAHM, my sadness primarily hinges on the loss of my homebirth and even the experience of labor (as I had a scheduled c-section 3 weeks before my due date and never got to feel even ONE contraction).

(*sigh*) Sorry to be a downer. Feeling a little post-partum-y today . . . yesterday was dd's due date and there was a lot of birth stories being told at the La Leche League meeting I attended . . . big struggle to hold back tears as I heard about multiple blissful homebirths. And today I am working on organizing the reunion for our childbirth class, full of--you guessed it, homebirthing (and a couple of birth center) mamas. Really looking forward to meeting everyone's babies; NOT looking forward to trying to hold it together during all of the birth stories. Haven't even been able to watch the "House of Babies" episodes that I recorded weeks ago . . .

[AppleCrisp]

I seem to have specific times during the day when I feel really crabby and unhappy and complaining, but its not all day. Its usually about 2 hours in the evening.

I feel like my food cravings have actually come back - I'm sure the hormone changes have something to do with it. I never heard of post-partum food cravings but I definitely have it.

[etoilech]

Originally Posted by RedOakMomma

Yup... I was a crying mess for about a week after Noah was born. Most of the time I was happy, but little things overwhelmed me--especially physical pains like the chills and hot flashes I was having. I'd be holding Noah, shivering like crazy, and it would make me so SAD!

Once my hormones got back to normal, things were fine.

Let people know if it doesn't improve.

Me too with the shivering and hot flashes. I am still pretty weepy. I cried MOST of yesterday.

[Phoenix_Mommy_4]

Hello
I saw this and just had to respond. I was a mess yesterday. Today feels better, but yesterday wasnt good.
Birthjunky : Like you I seem to be mourning my loss of birth ..alot more then I thoguht I would really. I knew it would be hard, but everytime I sit down in quiet with myself I can't help but think about Olivers birth. Then yesterday at a homeschooling outing I went to there were mothers talking about their amazing empowering births (they are also pregnant again and planning another empowering birth) which is awesome for them, but then they turn to me and ask about Olivers Birth, and I tell them it was a section, they just sort of looked at me...told me how horriable sections are, and then moved onto something else. It was horriable. I wasnt ready for that. I almost want to create a new birth story...would it be lies if I tell people the birth I dreamed about rather then the birth I had? I also have a bit of an infection in the cut they did....it makes me sad everytime I feel it. I wanted to much for this birth to be different. I want so much to have more children, but I doubt I could get anyone to do a VBAC after 4 sections. I also doubt if I would be willing to be cut again. I feel like running and not stopping. THe only thing that realyl makes me feel better is holding my lil boy and knowing that whatever were going through its all worth it, because he is here and he is healthy. Its so hard.
I want to heal so badly, so I can "get on with it" ...get over it. But as I am still healing and unable to go for long jogs/walks and all that stuff I have to much time to think.
Anyone..today is better...I am going to take one day at a time.
hugs and love to all
Phoenix

[nubianamy]

All you mamas, do give yourself time to grieve the losses you feel. Even if it is "just hormones," they are still very real feelings! You deserve to cry and be heard. to everyone.