Originally Posted by mamachandi
I just really want to see how many mamas who subscribe to ap/nfl also justify the leash.
IT's nice that you want other people to justify their actions, as I'm relatively sure that you really dislike having to justify YOUR actions to others. We all do what's best for our children. I don't have to justify my actions, b/c nothing I say will get you to say 'hmm, you know, that might not work for me, but it might work for them.' So, if you look at me and my kid is in a leash and you think I'm a piece of @$#) for doing that, I don't care.
Notice I haven't even said whether or not I use a leash/harness.
I could give you what if and you could say 'well, in that instance, it would be ok, but none other'. Then I could give another 'what if' and see if the response is the same. Then another, then another.
What if I have arthritis and can't run after my child when he/she gets away. What if we're at a playground and he/she won't come back when I call their name. What if they have a disability and don't understand 'stranger danger'. What if they're with an elderly relative who's not used to having young children around? What if the child actually *likes* using a leash/harness b/c they can walk without holding their hand up over their head to hold mom/dad's hand? What if I'm 8 mos pg and can't move as quickly as a 2 year old? What if my child has already slipped away and doesn't respond to his/her name and I ran frantically through a store, prompting a 'code adam' and NEVER want that to happen again? What if my back is not strong enough to sling a toddler for more than 10 minutes?
There are a million and one reasons that this particular tool could be used properly and it doesnt' necessarily doesn't make for lazy parents. If it doesn't work for you, fine, DON'T USE ONE. But why start such an inflammatory post bashing those who do?