I had my first prenatal for this preg today. With a new midwife, in a new practice (I'm in Ontario, my understanding is they have to work in a group practice, but I could be wrong). She will be my primary midwife.
She was great! I was so happy. She was everything I wanted my past midwives to be but they weren't. I had heard she was very hands-off and I felt really at ease talking to her. She just came right out and asked if there was anything about my past births that I didn't want to have happen again, or that didn't happen that I wanted to have happen. So, I told her that so far, I've done most of the labouring myself, all alone, no fussing, she said she understood. I said that this time, I want to keep on doing it myself for the birth and, if I want to at the time, catch the baby myself. She was supportive of it, but with the way midwives are regulated here -- they have to document everything. She said it wouldn't be a problem, though. I think her biggest concern is the other midwives! She started talking about how some midwives in ontario are former RNs, some were midwives in Britain, and some -- like her -- were practising in Ontario as midwives before regulation. She then suggested that if I wanted, I could use their birthtub to create a personal space to discourage the midwives from interfering with me.
She also told me a story she had read in Birthing From Within about a woman in Mexico who would go into a room, lock the door, birth the baby, and when the baby was born she would tell people they could come in now. She didn't say "Hey you could do this," I don't know if she's *allowed* to or not, but it occured to me later, maybe she was dropping a hint to me
She seemed happy to have someone not looking for interventions, too. I declined u/s and doppler, and we had a chat about not using doppler in labour -- midwives in ontario "have" to check heart rate every 15 mins in active labour and every 5 minutes when you're pushing. I said, well, can I just decline? Will you get in trouble? (I figured checking with a fetoscope might be tricky!) She said I could decline, but for her, she would like to check it once to be sure the baby is head down (oh, Ontario midwives also can't home deliver a breech baby
: we would have to go to the hospital and have an ob actually do it, and from what I've heard, most are scared to do it and would just do a c-section.
: ) She talked about how I could kneel to catch the baby myself best and protect myself from too much interference.
Anyway, I was really happy with how it went!