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post #1041 of 1257
It probably is just the stress, MsGB; finally showed up for me after my abnormally long cycle, but this one is still anovulatory (or else I missed too many days charting) and a well-meaning friend tried to cheer me up by telling me that my chest pains and heart palpitations were probably "just menopause".

Geering up for a custody battle here and I feel like I'm making some sort of Sophie's Choice between ds and the as-yet-unconceived-one.

Please hold on to hope, MsGB; part of me has always felt that I won't conceive until you do because if I did, it just wouldn't be fair.

:

bjunkie, thanks bunches for the info on DE.
post #1042 of 1257
Spider, I'm really sorry to hear about your troubles with DS and the upcoming custody fight. What a bummer.

Don't worry about conceiving before me. I want you to be successful in your journey, and not to compare it at all to mine. Life brings us all successes and challenges in our own time. I feel I've had a blend of them all my life, and while the successes are nice, the challenges are really what make me who I am today.

My thoughts are with you. Hang in there!
post #1043 of 1257

Bump!

Hi,there I am bumping us too...
I don't have time for personals as I am getting ready forfor a meeting at a cool place in our neighborhood, our Urban Ecology Center. I am hoping they will be helpful with curriculum development as I help my childrens school become Green Certified with the state. I was sent to a renewable energy conference at a local university. Lots of talk about global warming,the need to get our renewable energy up and running, the difficulty of fully meeting our energy needs and the HUGE NEED TO CONSERVE! It was enlightening and scary to learn just how fast our climate may change and just how far behind we are in terms of what we need to do. Hopefully a new president will help but we all have to really reevaluate our own energy practices.(I know this is not a hard sell on this board!)
Anyway, I am not actively TTC due to marital stuff-long story no time now(by the way, thanks for the support)I do however see another child someday for me, maybe much more likely through adoption at this point. It is an emotional time as my baby would have been due the 20th of this month and I am feeling the loss. For those looking at donor..hurray for you..what a great option.For all of us what ever route we are choosing..good luck !
Lisa
post #1044 of 1257
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Originally Posted by mamaov4 View Post
Hi,there I am bumping us too...
I don't have time for personals as I am getting ready forfor a meeting at a cool place in our neighborhood, our Urban Ecology Center. I am hoping they will be helpful with curriculum development as I help my childrens school become Green Certified with the state. I was sent to a renewable energy conference at a local university. Lots of talk about global warming,the need to get our renewable energy up and running, the difficulty of fully meeting our energy needs and the HUGE NEED TO CONSERVE! It was enlightening and scary to learn just how fast our climate may change and just how far behind we are in terms of what we need to do. Hopefully a new president will help but we all have to really reevaluate our own energy practices.(I know this is not a hard sell on this board!)
Anyway, I am not actively TTC due to marital stuff-long story no time now(by the way, thanks for the support)I do however see another child someday for me, maybe much more likely through adoption at this point. It is an emotional time as my baby would have been due the 20th of this month and I am feeling the loss. For those looking at donor..hurray for you..what a great option.For all of us what ever route we are choosing..good luck !
Lisa
Hey Lisa. Thanks for sharing what you are doing in your state for "going green". That is very cool.
I am sorry for the other struggles and I hope that things work out for the best for you!

~Lisa~
post #1045 of 1257
Hi Ladies,

I had a visit with my OB/GYN this week. A new doctor joined the group and I saw him. He read my chart and said, "A spontaneous pregnancy at 43?!?" with the sort of tone that it would have been easier for me to grow another head.

I'm thinking that I am going to need to avoid this one. :
post #1046 of 1257
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Originally Posted by ustasmom View Post
Hi Ladies,

I had a visit with my OB/GYN this week. A new doctor joined the group and I saw him. He read my chart and said, "A spontaneous pregnancy at 43?!?" with the sort of tone that it would have been easier for me to grow another head.

I'm thinking that I am going to need to avoid this one. :
What a . I would stay away from him for sure. We all have biases but when working in the medical field, it's important to put them aside and certainly not utter them out loud. Has he not joined the 21st century where it is becoming more and more common for women in their 40's to have babies? Sheesh!
post #1047 of 1257
Bump!
I agree with purple girl...we all know it is harder post 40 but certainly not unsual these days (obviously)! A different Dr. is definitely in order.
Good luck to you!

Wishing all of you women that are trying good luck,it is a hopeful time of year..
Lisa
post #1048 of 1257
Hello lovely ladies. I hope you all are doing well. Tomorrow is my myomectomy. I am starting to get nervous but excited at the same time because that puts me one step closer to the ttc process. I don't know how I will feel in the upcoming days, but I will up date you as soon as I can. baby dust for all.
post #1049 of 1257
Good luck, purplegirl!

I am feeling depressed. Timed everything right this month and still AF came. I need someone to talk to me about TTC in my 40s. (I gave up TTC on my 40th birthday, after five years, and six months later conceived dd!)

Fast forward to now--if I had conceived this cycle, dc would have been born just before my 44th birthday.

My cycles are regular, I have ovulated every cycle I've been charting (since August '06) between day 15 and day 23 (one outlier--mostly between CD 15 and 20). My lp is 10 or 11 days long. I have no reason to think things are any different now than when I conceived my angel ds a year ago. I wasn't ttc then (but not tta, either, obviously) so I don't know what my cycles were like, really, and I was only 13 months postpartum.

I am still bf-ing dd around the clock, but then I conceived angel ds when dd wasn't even eating any solids.

I don't have much cm to speak of, although I did have copious amounts during the three months I waited after my miscarriage to ttc (as per doctor's orders). I wish now I hadn't waited, but I really didn't think it would be that hard to get pregnant again.

I feel like I am in a bad place right now. Before I conceived angel ds I never thought I would have a second child, since it took five years to conceive dd. I was happy about having one child, and kind of wistful about not having another, but now after losing ds, all I want is another baby. I would like to either get pregnant or be at peace again with the idea of one child. I am really tired of TTC but I can't stop.

Thoughts? Advice? Hugs?
post #1050 of 1257
(((big hugs))) Juneau. I'm so sorry you are struggling with this. As you probably remember, my situation is similar in that I conceived unexpectedly after many years of trying. Then I went through a few months of really TTC and really wanting another baby badly. So, I know exactly what you are dealing with right now. I stopped charting and that made me much less obsessed and then before I knew it I was not even thinking about it much at all. I think I am at peace now with not having anymore kids. I've been so busy with the two that I have and thinking about working part-time soon and my younger one is speech delayed so I am having to spend more one on one time with him to work on that. I'm content with the way things are for us now. To be honest, I didn't think it would be this easy to let go of the dream of another child, but I think I have just accepted that this is how things are supposed to be. I don't want to waste any time obsessing about something because it does take away from the enjoyment I was having with my family and life, in general. I got tired of the ups and downs and feeling hopeful every month and then let down. Life is too short for that. It's tough to give advice because only you know how much you want to keep trying and you may not be at the point where you would consider giving up. I suppose you could 'try' to think about it less by not charting and staying busy with your family and take the approach that if it happens - great, but you will be okay if it doesn't. For me, I went through so many years of trying that it became such a huge part of my life and so many tears and disappointment resulted. I can't let myself go there again because I don't want to miss out on any of the joy of raising my boys. Best of luck to you.

I hope everyone else is doing well. Haven't been on the board lately but I think about all of you.

Lynne
post #1051 of 1257
I'm 41, ttc #2. I used injectibles with an IUI the first time. This time, don't have coverage for that, am trying diet, herbs, homeopathy, and naturopathy instead. I had EW CF this cycle, which is pretty amazing for me. This is my first cycle charting.
post #1052 of 1257
Hugs juneau. and -- maybe have you tried L-arginine and Maca? I took maca this cycle and it really seemed to boost my fertility.
post #1053 of 1257
Thread Starter 
Hello All!
It has been a really long time, but I wanted to check and say hello to you all.

Mamov4 how are you???

I still do the ttc thing but it is in the background right now. I am learning (slowly) to be happy with what I have and yet still never give up.
I turned 45.....wow, did that go fast or what?
post #1054 of 1257

Greetings from Vermont

HELLO All!
I am so glad to have found you!:
I will be 40 this summer and TTC #3. DS is 5 1/2 and DD is just about 3.
Looking forward to getting to know you!
post #1055 of 1257
Hi cindyloo
post #1056 of 1257
Thread Starter 
Welcome to Cindyloo!!
post #1057 of 1257
Thanks for the support Lynne and Pookietooth. What is Maca? Why L-arginine?

Welcome cindyloo. Hello Velveteen. Ahoy there to noordinaryspider. I hope things are going better for you and your son. I think of you often.

Hello massaginmommy. Sorry about AF. Well, we can be cycle buddies this month.
post #1058 of 1257
Stepping my toe into the water... Can I join you ladies?

I am 41 (will be 42 in November) mom of a 3 year old and 13 month old. We arent' actively TTCing, but did have you know what last night unprotected. We have tentatively talked in the past about 3 kids, but haven't had the full blown discussion on whether or not to start trying for #3. So I guess this is pre - TTCing.

My 13 month old has special needs, so this is a concern of ours. I did have my OB/GYN annual appointment a couple of weeks ago. She said go for it and when we want to start TTCing she will connect us with a Genetic counselor. I am also on prescription dosage of Folic Acid.

Nice to meet you all.
post #1059 of 1257
KatWrangler
post #1060 of 1257

surgery went well

hi all and welcome to our new members. i can't post a lot as i have just gotten home from my surgery. it went well. i still have a uterus and didn't bleed to death like some doctors insinuated would happen. i am sore and weak but thrilled to have it behind me. i'll post more later.
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