new 40+ TTC'er here (long)Hi everyone! I am so glad I found the MotheringDotCommune forums! I spent a lot of time reading the UC birth stories when I first came here, and then I found this thread.
I am 40, will be 41 in September, and my DH of almost 17 years and I are going to be TTC starting this month! : I am using Fertility Friend with BBT and OPK charting. Right now I am only at CD 9 (but started doing OPK yesterday since this is my first cycle for charting.) So I am basically waiting to see when/if I ovulate.
It was a long time before DH and I were ready to consider starting a family - me because of the long-term emotional effects of an abusive mother (who I have been estranged from for a decade, fortunately) and he for other, more practical reasons. Some part of me worries that it is too late, but another, larger part of me has a strong intuitive feeling that everything will be fine, that women have been having babies at this age for years, and I that I am fertile and that we will conceive quickly. I can't explain it, but I just have this core feeling that I will become pregnant soon, and that our child (I envision a little girl lol) has chosen us and is just waiting for the right time to come.
We would have started TTC last month, when I first decided I was ready, but DH had a prostate procedure and was also recovering from some throat surgery (he has health issues) so we had to postpone till this month.
I do have some worries if I become pregnant - I live at the Southern New Jersey Shore and based on my early searches I don't think I can find a doula/midwife who will take someone my age with a first-time pregnany. If I can't find one, I worry about finding a non-interventionist OB/GYN. And then, if I do have a child, there is the worry about finding a no-vax, vegetarian friendly pediatrician. Sadly, I don't live in the most crunchy of areas. I get a lot of clueless questions about being a *vegetarian* for heaven's sake.... I can't imagine the flak I would get if I tried to explain my no-vax feelings.... But I generally keep my own counsel so it's not something I care about, I'm just concerned that I will be able to find providers who are on the smae page as I am.
But then I say to myself, Cat, you are really jumping the gun! I'm not even pregnant yet, so first things first hehe.
I am still catching up on this thread so I am not sure yet who to cngratulate and who to send well-wishes to, but now that I have found it I will be playing catch-up!
Best wishes to all of you here,