It feels like forever since I've been on MDC, but it's probably only been a few busy days!
Liz, I, too, am 42 and concerned about peri-menop. Your cycle sounds like my last one: AF was a few days late, and I got a BFN of the HPT. Finally decided to call the doc, went in for a UA, got a script for a blood test, and lovely AF (or Spot, I should say) clearly showed up around dinner time! It seems like once I place the answer in medical science, Af arrives. Hang in there...hopefully you are pg, but if not, take a day to mourn and dive right back in the next day with gusto!
Summermom, thanks for the suggestion re: the known donor. I approached someone I know who is gay and wanted a child (but his partner didn't, as he already had one), and he decided against it. My other good guy friends live across the country, and so airfare alone (to time it at the last minute) would be pricey, too. I haven't asked them, but think it just might not make sense. I just found another bank that is a lot less expensive, and have chosen a donor from there, so it should cost me a little more than half what the other bank cost. That helps ease things a bit! Of course, I wonder how many more cycles I"ll have to do. I hope it's just this next one or two (at the most). I'm on CD 6 today and doing the clomid challenge test, so in a few weeks I should know what my ovarian reserve looks like. My FSH was good last December, but I'm concerned that things may have changed. Perhaps not, though.
I hope you are all doing well. I would love to see more BFP's for the over 40 crowd!